When I Covered My Head, I Opened My Mind
As a non-Muslim living in Western society, the idea of modesty was not exactly foremost in my mind. Like all other women of my generation and mind-set, I thought such ideas were antiquated and excessive. I felt pity for the poor Muslim woman who had to "wear all that junk," or "walk around in bed - sheets" as I used to call it
I was a modern woman, educated and liberated. Little did I know the awful truth. I was more oppressed than any Muslim woman in the most culturally oppressive village in the Muslim world. I was oppressed not by an inability to choose my clothing or to choose my life-style, I was oppressed by an inability to see my society for what it really was. I was oppressed by the idea that a woman's beauty was public, and that lustful admiration was equal to respect.
It was when Allah guided me to Islam, and I put on the hijab, that I was finally able to step out of the society in which I lived and see it for what it really is. I could see how the highest paid women were those who exposed themselves to public display, like actresses, models and even strip-tease dancers. I was able to see that the relationship between men and women was unfairly stacked in the man's direction. I knew I used o dress to attract men. I tried to fool myself by saying I did it to please myself, but the painful reality was that what pleased me was when I was admired by a man I considered attractive.
I was not able to see that I was oppressed until I stepped out of the darkness of this oppressive society into the light of Islam. With the light shinning on the truth, I was finally able to see the shadows that had been so obscured by my Western outlook. It is not oppression to protect yourself and society; it is oppression to voluntarily throw yourself into an unclean social quagmire while thinking that it is the best way of life.
I am grateful to Allah that He allowed me to recognize that when I covered my head, I was taking away from people any means for judging me other than my mind, my soul and my heart. When I covered my head, I took away the incentive for exploitation based on beauty. When I covered my head, I made people respect me because they saw that I respected myself, and when I covered my head, I finally opened my mind to the truth.
One of the factors which attracted me to this great deen of ours was the fact that so much of it can be understood based on logic and reason. Islam is a great religion that satisfies all of our basic intellectual and emotional needs; it does this simply because it is the truth, and the truth is always easy to understand and defend.
Topics: Hijab (Head Cover), Veil (Burqa)
To Sister Sharifa and Brandy welcome to Islam. As your Muslim brother, I am proud and above all, Praise be to ALLAH SWT, the Creator and Sustainer of life, and the Supreme Ruler of the universe.
That ALLAH SWT has Guided you and instill in your hearts the the desire to find and search the truth, and now that you have found the truth, hold on to it.
As your Muslim brother, I am proud and I find lessons in your quest to know our Creator to be touching, and your endurance is an inspiration for all new Muslim brothers and sisters worldwide.
And I pray that may you be showered by GOD with HIS Rahmah and Baraqah always Insya ALLAH.
Your Brother in Islam,
Welcome to the religion of truth,very nice article.Living in newyork,i see majority of muslim women wear hijab as a fashion because they don't cover the parts of body which are suppose to be fully covered,I hope u wont be one of those women who just think that head is the only part to be covered and give least importance to those parts which are most attracted to men.
May Allah continue to guide you and protect you from the mundane things of earth. You have discovered a fact which most women may yet hope to realiize. And perhaps, may spend a life time searching for that inner peace which only Allah can give. It is extremely beautiful to look at our sisters who take pride in executing the commands of Allah!
The dress code is important. But equally important also, is the salah. When combined, its an unbeatable feat!
May Allah give you the strength to continue to prostrate to Him for as long as He has decreed.
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that was an impressive article. May Allah give you paradise for your courageous act, and I also ask him to give other women,(Muslim and non-Muslim alike), the guidance, strength, and courage to start wearing the Hijab as well.
to havebeen giving the opportunity to read this article my daughter has come of age (puberty) and attend public school she doesn't want to wear hijab we are struggling with this because she has twoo younger sisters who will not go without them I don't want her to confuse them so I will give her this jzakall karil to sister Sharrifa for this as salaam u alaikum
How bold is your article on Covering Head and Opening Mind. May Allah guide all of us the same way as it happened to you in all walks of our lives and esp. uncovered women to the right path and follow Islam in its true spirit.
Amin Summa Amin
Fi Amaan Allah
Sister Sharifa, you are brave...and now that you know the truth please stick to it forever!
All the best to you and your family!
Wa salaamu alaikum
Thanks to Almighty God to show you his light and we should pray for other to.Thanks
I find truth in your statements sister.
My daughter who once was a legal assistant once told me the same thing.
She worked in a law office that would fire a female clerical person who gained weight, got pregnant or gained the age of 25.
My daughter who is brilliant was let go by this firm when she became pregnant with her oldest daughter,she did not reflect the image they wanted to portray.
She is non muslim, but she is a modest dresser and believes a woman should be valued for her person and not her looks.
I too feel safer in hijab and modest dress.
As for my daughter, she is now the editor of the legal section of a respect local business publication. She is respected for her talent and ability and NOT her looks! (even though she is beautiful!)
May Allah bless you
This is the part i love much when sis Sharrifa says: "One of the factors which attracted me to this great deen of ours was the fact that so much of it can be understood based on logic and reason." Unlike other religions where u are not allowed to use reasoning! How truthful!
Well done sis. Keep writing.
May Allah continue to guide us unto the path that is straight to Himself, ameen.