Narrated Jabir: I was with Allah's Messenger ﷺ in a Ghazwa, and when we returned, I wanted to hurry, while riding a slow camel. A rider came behind me. I looked back and saw that the rider was Allah's Messenger ﷺ . He said (to me), "What makes you in such a hurry?" I replied, "I am newly married". He said, "Did you marry a virgin or a matron?" I replied, "(Not a virgin but) a matron". He said, "Why didn't you marry a young girl with whom you could play and who could play with you?" Then when we approached (Medina) and were going to enter (it), the Prophet ﷺ said, "Wait till you enter (your homes) at night (in the first part of the night) so that the ladies with unkempt hair may comb their hair, and those whose husbands have been absent (for a long time) may shave their pubic hair". (The sub-narrator, Hashim said: A reliable narrator told me that the Prophet ﷺ added in this Hadith: "(Seek to beget) children! Children, O Jabir!")
This hadith teaches us many values such as respect for marriage life and its responsibilities; being mindful of our partners’ needs; taking care of our physical appearance even when we are alone at home; seeking children in order to continue one’s lineage; respecting virginity before marriage; understanding that there are different types of marriages such as marrying virgins or matrons depending on one’s preference or situation etcetera . It also reminds us how important it is for couples to be playful with each other even after getting married so they can enjoy their marital life together without any worries or stressors from outside sources .
