Anger

I need to get this off my chest.  A few Muslim women I've been meeting in university have married non-Muslim men.  I find it extremely hard to respect them.  Before Ramadan, I referred to one of them in an expletive.  A lot of my friends do not approve of the way I treat them.  I've also refused to help them on assignments and have deliberately not contacted them when doing group work.

I know it's not right to swear at people but I honeslty consider a Muslim woman marrying a Kafir a disgrace.  It insults me as a man and as a Muslim.  Are Muslim men not good enough for these women?  I also get insulted that these women are throwing away a religion that means so much to me just so they can be with some dirty kafir who most likely has a dubious past.  Cause lets be honest, most kafirs have had previous relations if you get my drift.  

Are these women considered Muslim?  Did those women forgo the title of Muslim by marrying a Kafir?  Am I correct in feeling contempt and hate for forgoing their belief in Allah for some stupid man? 

As far as I see it, a woman who marries a kafir does not have her marriage sactioned by Islam.  Therefore, her marriage is null and void.  She is a fornicator and should be treated as such.  I sin myself, everyone does.  But at least I admit what I am doing is wrong.  Women who marry kafirs don't and infact whenever they lie with their husbands they commit a sin.  Fornication is a very great sin.

Furthermore, as for you women who converted to Islam and are treated like dirt by Americans.  I feel bad for your plight, however, know that you are in the right and those around you are in the wrong.  You have rejected the sinful life of a kafir for the beauty of Islam and I hold you in much higher estimation than the so-called Muslim women who marry kafirs and do the opposite of what you do.  It's not fair to place me in the same category as those people who frown upon your conversion because Islam is the right path.  That is an absolute.

As for my assumptions about Kafirs, I think I'm pretty correct in them.  People hate to generalize ideas and end up having no opinions on anything.  The fact of the matter is that most non-Muslims have had relations before marriage.  I believe in North America, 96% of people graduating out of high school have lost their virginity.  I guarantee most of those people are not married by that time.  Are these the type of people, Muslim women should marry?

Furthermore as for the definition of Kafir:  A person who rejects Islam when presented to it.  Okay I will agree with that definition.  But what do you call a man who marries a Muslim woman, who I am certain has been introduced to the idea of Islam and despite that still decides to be a non-Muslim?  A kafir!

As for being consumed with hatred.  Hatred is not an evil thought if it is directed in the right manner.  Christian ideologies consider hate as evil, but it is really not.  That's why Islam is better because it allows the Muslim acknowledge the gamut of human emotions and to respond to them in an Islamic fashion.  Arguments that I am consumed with hate have no bearing on me because this isn't a Sunday school lecture or an episode of the Carebears... this is real life. 

Bismillah,

That's hilarious.  Carebears.  And Papa Smurf too!

Thanks for the compliment.

You're right.  You can feel any way you like.  We thought you were looking for other people's opinions on the topic.  And since your name is Unhappy, we thought having less anger would make you feel happier.