Anger

Auzubillahi minash shaitan ir rajeem,

Bismillah ir rahman ir rahim,

As far as I see it, a woman who marries a kafir does not have her marriage sactioned by Islam.  Therefore, her marriage is null and void.  She is a fornicator and should be treated as such.

And how should you treat a forniator in Islam? - a fornicator in a secular country? - I do not really know what sharia can really be applied on such people.

The very first thing that Islam says is to have compassion for those who wrong their souls. Pray for them, that they may receive guidance.

If you really care for these women, and want to do something about it, you should try to send an effective an purposeful message.

We are living in times when correcting the wrong, with ones own hands will not be easy, and the least level of Imaan would be to consider it wrong in one's own heart - many responses you have received so far also indicate this.

You are not wrong in hating their sin. However you should still give these people respect as human beings.

Those who believe in Islam but do not have amal saleh (righteousness in deeds), are still muslims. They are not mo'min as long as they do not believe and follow, but we should treat them as our fellow muslims.

On the otherhand if a muslim does not consider a serious sin as sin, then indeed he has denied the word of allah. Am not sure if this person will be considerd a kafir, but for sure he/she is a munafiq (a hypocrite).

I sin myself, everyone does.  But at least I admit what I am doing is wrong.  Women who marry kafirs don't and infact whenever they lie with their husbands they commit a sin.  Fornication is a very great sin.

When we sin, just admitting it will not make us mo'min. We should work constantly to correct our mistakes, and guard ourselves against returning to them. And, if we busy ourselves in these matters, we will learn how much work is needed on our own selves. Most of the times this realisation humbles people and they start seeing the sin of others in a different light.

You are right, these sisters are in sin, but do you think your attitude of rejection is giving them any message? If it is, do it for the sake of allah, if not, then do something else. Look into yourself to see if your behavior can guide them. Anger alone does not help. Anger with adl (justice) channelised in the right direction is how muslims should react in social crisis like these.

Maa salaama,

Nausheen

Assalamu Alaikum Aisha:

Why do you think you feel so much anger? Are you unhappy in your life?

OMG?!!!

Unhappy, can i just ask what makes you such a good muslim?? You've done nothing but be malicous, backbite, cause hurt and your proud of yourself. You are purposefully hurting the feelings of these people and feeling that what your doing is good and better. I'm probably correct in saying, that your pride has led you to sin in so many ways.

Feeling that you are better than someone just because your a muslim is soooooooo wrong.

Look at the prophets uncle - he was not a muslim - but he helped the prophet in so many ways - he will have the lightest punishment in hell - but he was never a muslim!!!

I'll count just a few of your sins for you now, so that next time you think before you do something.

To become abusive and to use profane language is a sin.

To declare any muslim a sinner or Kaffir

To maliciously accuse and slander someone

To gossip and backbite against either muslims or non-muslims.

To taunt and criticise the faults of others.

To discontinue talking to a fellow muslim for more than 3 days without a valid islamic reason

I strongly suggest you look within yourself first. They may have committed a mistake, but they could also maybe convert the people they married. You need to be more humble as a person.