Be More Gentle with Non-Muslims

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Asalaam Alaikum Akhe,

I believe it is up to Allah. 

We think that if we just 'say' the truth that it will click with people. As a revert I can say it did not work that way for me. It takes self-analysis and work. And really what message are we sending? Honestly, most of us do not have the depth of knowledge to actually be able to have a dialogue. Say on this board, most is: one quotes the Quran, the other quotes the Bible and back and forth.

In my recent lecture, the Sheikh it talking about how the Prophet (PBUH) was VERY patient with people. He never yelled at people. He is our model of gentleness and kindness.

And I would even argue, we cannot even begin to understand why things are the way they are... many people not born into Islam or hear the message. (And I do not agree that people who hear a distorted version of Islam are hearing 'Islam.')

I have no problem being nice to nonMuslims.. most Muslims here are not my good friends here in the US. I live in a nonMuslim world. And when they say some people are in 'darkness' they are right.  And that is the way it is.

And I would actually argue that some people should not try and do Dawah.. they don't understand where people are coming from. If you never grew up and were raised as a nonMuslim you often cannot put yourself in those shoes.

And patience and prayer and really important.

Hayfa


Edited by Hayfa - 30 September 2009 at 3:33am

Assalimu Alaikum Brother Akhe Abdullah,

Amen...

   Asslamu Alaikum
  Yes!! you are right brother and all of you.
 The problem occurs when you are not giving your mind any time to work just because you believe that something is 100% true. That is why relatives of prophet Muhammad peace be upon him and many kuffar of his time were saying: we knew that from our grandparents and will never change it. We all have to get ready to accept the truth about anything in this life and have the bravery to change our life according to it.
  I am not saying cast doubts on everything in your life but I am saying give your mind and heart time to work and think of everything in your life. I will not take you away form the topic but I am saying, every one must have some time A LONE with him/herself;without seeing any one and without having any work to do or to worry about.  This is what is called in Arabic (Khulwah). On this time you think deeply about your life, your faith, your Creator and everything around you. Ask yourself if you have been doing good? Have you been preparing yourself for dying any moment? Even ask yourself are you a good Muslim? Why are you Muslim? ... Think of this nature.. who could put everything in its order? What controls our life and luck?
  This is what prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, used to do in Hiraa' Cave before Gabriel, peace be upon him, came to him.
 So if any one even non-Muslim or even know nothing about God have some time to meditation, he will reach the truth. But many stick to what they believe in and never give this mind the time to work. Many know that Islam is the truth but do not have the enough bravery to convert. There are many reasons. But even form the days of prophet Muhammad , peace be upon him, 

   (Abu Jahil said: I am sure that Muhammad is telling the truth but if I believe in him, his grandfathers AbdulMuttalib family will be leaders of us.)

 Do not think that all of those who do not convert do not that Islam is the truth but their time of being a Muslim did not come yet and may never come. Allah is the ONLY one who knows.

 But I am still on my point.

   After everything I said, non_Muslims are human beings who feel, love and want to be loved and respected like us. Love and respect have a strong influence on the human heart no matter what it believes in. Even when someone shows you the hate and ignorance but you show the love and care you will defeat him but with your kindness and generosity. You are the winner at the end.

   May Allah guide us and help us to thank Him the way He deserves for guiding us into Islam.
  I pay witness that there is no God but Allah and Muhammad peace be upon him is His messenger.



Edited by Full of Hopes - 30 September 2009 at 10:47pm