Still not married

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   Asalamu Alaikum sister
Put ur trust in Allah, take this time 2 really learn ur deen,cause Insha Allah when u get married u will need it, and remember that Allah has a reason 4 everything.

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proudmuslima3 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 01 April 2008 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 24	Post Options Post Reply Quote proudmuslima3 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 16 June 2008 at 9:54pm
	Asalamu Alaikum sister Put ur trust in Allah, take this time 2 really learn ur deen,cause Insha Allah when u get married u will need it, and remember that Allah has a reason 4 everything.

truthseeker Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Joined: 12 July 2008 Location: Egypt Status: Offline Points: 9	Post Options Post Reply Quote truthseeker Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 12 July 2008 at 6:52pm
	salamo 3aliko Dear sister, i understand ur feelings , but this is not the end of the world. u should trust Allah and know well that He is choosing us the best ,but we ,humans,lack patience and feel frustrated when we don't find what we want in our hands. Believe me sister, the best thing 2 do is 2 live ur life the way Allah has chosen and wait as He is saving u a good thing but be patient.the more the patient u r ,the best u win.May be it is just a test of ur faith or may be there is no one around deserving u . May be the time hasn't come yet .Never lose hope in Allah and always ask Him 2 send u the pious husband . By the way, i really liked ur reply 2 the online marriage solution.i shows that u r a true moslem.May ALLAH show us all the right path.

Hayfa Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Female Joined: 07 June 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 2368	Post Options Post Reply Quote Hayfa Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 13 July 2008 at 6:57am
	I agree with people.. and there is so much you cn be doing..serve Allah. Work on your submission. You can get involvd in groups.. get involved in the masjid.. help the poor and the hungry. It is how we account for our time. And trust in Allah and his plan for you. And really, find a good partner. I see women who are desparate to marry, marry the nxt one that comes alon, and regrets their haste. Some women choose to be a 2nd wife.. to marry a good man. They know he is a good husband and provider and take that route..
	When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. Rumi

Alinea Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Joined: 04 May 2008 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 6	Post Options Post Reply Quote Alinea Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 14 July 2008 at 6:30pm
	Chrysalis, Thank you for your realistic advice. Currently, I am trying to do just what you said. Like most girls I have been bought up to believe that marriage is the only path for women. Society and cultural norms make this even more difficult especially for women after a certain age. I have heard some very cruel comments directly and indirectly. Therefore, the process of trying to accept things the way they are is not an easy task. Yet, I am trying every single day to not let that be the focus of my life. My goal has never been to marry someone for the sake of marrying. I do believe that one must choose a spouse carefully. Most people say I am picky but I am not running after looks, or wealth. I am thinking about a person's imam, our compatibility levels, and his family. To me those are the important traits in choosing a spouse. However, I feel that men (at least the ones that I meet) are looking for perfection. Maybe I am yet to meet the right individuals who are more realistic about their life partners but I am also limited to meeting Muslims let alone those that have more realistic standards. I really appreciate your dua and advice. Thank you.

Alinea Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Joined: 04 May 2008 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 6	Post Options Post Reply Quote Alinea Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 14 July 2008 at 6:33pm
	Truthseeker, Thank you very much for the advice. I am doing just as you and many othersisters have mentioned and trying to live life the way Allah has chosen. It is difficult at times but as you mentioned I just need to learn more patience.

Alinea Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Joined: 04 May 2008 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 6	Post Options Post Reply Quote Alinea Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 14 July 2008 at 6:36pm
	Proudmuslima3, I really appreciate your response. You are right with the sentiment that Allah has a reason for everything. We are impatient human beings and I am no different. I am learning to have more patience. Thank you,

Alinea Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Joined: 04 May 2008 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 6	Post Options Post Reply Quote Alinea Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 14 July 2008 at 6:40pm
	zahara, Thank you for the words of encouragement. As I mentioned to the other sisters I am learning everyday to have more patience. It is difficult sometimes but I have learned to think of Allah when the time becomes more challenging then usual. If Allah wills it will happen. Thank you,

Zaharah Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Female Joined: 01 June 2008 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 273	Post Options Post Reply Quote Zaharah Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 14 July 2008 at 10:28pm
	SALAM U know that we all have to be there for each other, we're SISTERS "Z"