The goal of Men

Arabian,

Subhanallah!

In every woman or a girl you see try to visualise someone's mother, someone's future mother... Think of one day having a daughter and imagine how would you feel if someone expressed his lustful interest with his eye and mannerism to her... imagine someone's thoughts caressing your wife-to-be's beauty at a shopping mall when you are not around... and reflect! 

We are all humans and we all have certain preferences and desires. It is not castration (physical or mental) that is required for the salvation. It is taking control over shahwa and being obedient to Allah as much as we can.

Take it easy, insha Allah.

Salam to Arabian,

Allah hu Alim (Allah (alone) is the judge).

I think you are confused about your true motivations and goals. Allah (s.w.a.) placed the desire for a physical connection between man in women in us, and provided us with the proper means to fulfill this desire in a way that brings us closer to him. You are confusing the means (sexual intercourse) with the goal (spritual perfection, attaining nearness to Allah (s.w.a.).

Allah (s.w.a.) has made it clear for us the rules and regulations regarding this aspect of our lives in Quran and Hadith. If you choose to ignore these regulations, then you will not acheive the peace that you are seeking. The rules are not meant to restrict your ability to find satisfaction, in fact, the opposite is true. The purpose of these rules is to allow the individual to fulfill ones needs while progreesing towards the goal.

Salam

Bismillah

Israfil wrote: I'm curious why the moderators deleted my post...

Myself not aware, brother Israfil.

Salaam,

Perhaps my post was not properly inserted after I finished but I then again this is not the first case where I assumed that my post was deleted so maybe this can be a mental note to the moderators here. I just wanted to finally add that its quite pleasant to see that many of you take this subject seriously. I have to again reiterate the importance of mankinds conduct to one another. We are all creatures on God's planet who at some point in life are finding our way towards the right behavior. Each attitude reflects our own understanding of ourselves and how we must be in this world.

This is the importance that God has mentioned in the Qur'an. God never mentioned perfection being an important trait to apprehend but the effort of being good and doing good deeds. I understand for many men its quite hard to be consistent. For me personally its hard being Muslim. God mentions that in the Qur'an we are ever tried--even goes on to raise the question whether humans would think of obtaining paradise without being tried?

I believe that the Qur'an contains the blueprint of a being a good man, and as our beloved prophet extends in the Hadith, the best Muslim is one who is (first) good to his wife. Goodness is the key to sustaining ones faith. Goodness is the quality in which sustains the human race. Goodness is a quality in which creates the smile in a child. Goodness is an abstract quality in which creates a ripple in the human family that eventually reciprocates. I believe that ultimately we must reflect this quality.