polygamy.........????????

"In non-Muslim societies, more than 65% of married men have affairs with more than 2, 3 or 4 women. There are more than 45% of women who have affairs the same way outside of marriage. All these practices are correct for the people of reason. They admit any zina (fornication/adultery) but they don't admit any alternative for keeping people in cleanliness and pure solutions. "

As Salaam Alaikum,

Can please tell me the source of your information??

 salam,ummziba thanx for ur webs i will check it inshallah.

 zaman. i know zina its wronge. but what it bothers me is that these man dont think about anythng else just weman. why dont they think how to establish islamic sheriah ( khalifa) first so if they have any problem they have the low to solve it but like this they know they do whatever they want becaouse in the end we dont have a khalifa. do u get me???????? they just want to fuel us by saying     ''oh my iman will be better if i have another wife cose ill not be looking weman again'' all rubish, cose ,man will be strong in iman only if he fears Allah not if he has many weman. anyway they are laying no1 but themselfes.

iman

Assalamu Alaikum All,

I would like to convey my sentiments to ZamanH. Problems with culture?? The real issue here is the fact that a sister is being hurt by the unnecessary would-be actions of her husband. Although it is accepted in Islam, there are strict restrictions on marrying more than one woman. If the first wife does not consent, then anyone with a heart will realise that it is very painful to watch the man you love even contemplate marrying another, especially since there is no real valid reason being given.

Like Ummziba has mentioned, your responses seem very cold and dismissive. Not to mention not very helpful with the situation at hand.

Islam allows polygamy, true. A man may marry 4 wives if and only if he has the consent of the first wife and is able to treat each and every one exactly equally.

In this day and age there are very few circumstances that call for the marrying of a second wife. If, as in the case of sister Iman, the husband has no valid reason for wanting/needing a second wife then all he is serving to do is put his wife through emotional turmoil, and this IS the case since sister Iman is not happy with this situation.

Salam.

"A man may marry 4 wives if and only if he has the consent of the first wife.."

Please support this assertion with evidence, that a man must have consent of his wife, prior to taking a second wife.