Your views on male/female friendships

Bismillah irrahman irrahim

Assalamu alaikum

If i was the friend of this sister, i would ask her how serious is she and how sincere is she to her religion? no offense intended here sis, just read ur post, the guy dont believe in God but will pretend to believe just to be with her and she be happy with that? sister ur friend's compromise on her beliefs is starting right from here, Allah swt knows the deepest secrets of hearts, Allah swt knows that for this person who is athiest for the moment a person could be more important than God bcos he dont believe in God. but for a believing muslimah how has this person bcome more important than her lord?

im sure there are many muslims this sister will find more suitable than this person, we all get so much confused in this word love, what is it? how did it start between these two people, im sure by talking to the person and by being with him, is that allowed in Islam u think sis, please tell ur friend dont base decision of ur life on something which does not even come in mightb allowed area.

sis we need to consider the fact that this life dont go on us liking or disliking some thing, the ayah where Allah swt tells us 'Fighting is enjoined on you, and it is an object of dislike to you; and it may be that you dislike a thing while it is good for you, and it may be that you love a thing while it is evil for you, and Allah knows, while you do not know' (2:116). this ayah is although for jihad but we can use it in general sense too.

wassalam

ASHI wrote: Salaam, well...tell u wot??? the guy is willing to convert....the thing is..he is already an atheist, though his parents r hindu. He doesnt believe in the existence of God it seems..but he is willing to convert for my friend's sake..is this correct?? but it wud still hurt both of their parents...wot do u guys feel..???

As salamu alaikum.  Hmm, this guy seems risky if you ask me.  The sister should continue to make da'wa for him.  If he converts, then he does so for the good of his own soul and Allah azza wa jalla will reward her for her efforts.  But I wouldn't advise her to consider marrying this man.  If he's only converting for the sake of marriage just imagine the problems she'll face trying to raise muslim children.  It will be close to impossible.  I just can't imagine anything worst than being a muslimah and giving birth to unbelieving children. Ma'adh allah!

Salaam

Bismillah irrahman irrahim

Assalamu alaikum

sis this is very slippery slope, u need to tell the other sister to be careful, im sure u must of heard the hadith

Narrated 'Umar bin Al-Khattab: I heard Allah's Apostle saying, "The reward of deeds depends upon the intentions and every person will get the reward according to what he has intended. So whoever emigrated for worldly benefits or for a woman to marry, his emigration was for what he emigrated for.

there is another hadith which is about having intention only for sake of ur lord, i cant remember it fully but i will paraphrase it and Allah swt guide me and forgive me for my mistake. Sayyidina Muhammad (saw) said that on day of Judgement a martyr will go infront of Allah swt and will say that Ya Rab, I followed and struggled on your path and was killed, Allah swt will say to him, you did not do it for me, u wanted to be known as a martyr so the angels of hell are being told to take him to hellfire.

If some one wants to revert nothing can be better than this but intention should be for sake of our dear lord.  this sister needs to consider being in different religions ur ways of life are different, thinking, habbits and every thing, if someone is giving it up for u, then they might want u to give up some things too, what if it is that is part of ur religions? just remember for sake of another human u can only go uptill one point but if it is for ur lord then Alhamdulillah. what if he becomes a muslim and they still dont end up being married, what if it dont work out after the marriage, is he going to leave islam, there are alot of things to think about sis, just say to the guy read bout Islam and then with this thought that u reverting dont necessarily mean we getting married in the end and if u still want to come to Islam then Alhamdulillah nothing better than that

Allah swt says in Quran 'Who has created death and life that He may test you which of you is best in deed.'

this life is not even worth wing of fly in sight of our dear lord, it is said that if a person lives 60 years then thats merely 3 secs r mins of the day of Judgement, our sights should be living this life for next to please Allah swt, just think for a while which one u rather have

wassalam

well thanks 4 all ur advices....i too have conveyed the same 2 her...

i dont think this is possible...i mean he converting or his parents or her parents accepting...

lets hp 4 the best...