My fiancee is muslim and I am Christian

Well

I am an Egyptian guy living in Egypt. First i would like to state that there shouldnt be any conversion to Islam just because of Love. This is the first step. Second, Islam is beautoiful yes but Egypt has a lot of cultural issues . They dont relate to Islam and sometimes sabbotage things. Family also plays a big role and if they dont like teh girl their son os marrying then it is hell really . Also bieng a muslim doesnt mean he is a practicing muslim.

I think if any lady wants to marry then she should marry from her culture. Western converts to Islam should marry each others . Egyptian muslims should marry eachothers. Culture plays an important role. Why risk and venture with so much ?

I think the sister should think about all what have been said to her on this thread because its true. She can go on vacation and should definetly take it easy .

If you need any more information about Egypt sister you can PM me.

salam

yann237 wrote: You're lucky of being a Christian woman marrying a Muslim. ,Cause, i've seen, on this forum, a few years ago a Muslim woman wanting to marry a Christian man. ...Boy! Did insults, threats and the most HARAAM words were written to that woman! seems bizarre how HARAAM levels vary depending of the topic... A male. (sorry!)

I was here to see all of that too! It was horrible what was said to her but, she married him anyway!

Lameese

I would get to know him far more then you do now. For him to suggest 'killing you' is not a very good sign. It is not a joking matter and if he were serious then I would not feel safe. I teach self-defense and frankly I'd be headed in the other direction if anyone made these comments to be. That is me personally. People often change after marriage. So many women felt something a bit 'off' but did not follow their instincts, just wanted it all to be true and good. And after the marriage.. it all begins-control or different levels of abuse-mentally, physically emotionally. Listen to your instincts. In any case I would learn some self-defense. All women should learn some (in my humble opinion).

One thing that Islam has taught me is that on one level, we want love and happiness but its also a basic agreement to create a union and family structure. And that we need to look at the 'soundness' of this person to marry.  Here in the west we tend to get all mixed up and not look at it as a functional unit. We MUST be practical and logical. Can the husband provide, is he honest, respectful, kind, etc. We 'see' what we want to see because we want those feelings. That is why having other's give their opinion is important. Other people see different things.    

If you can go and live there for a period of time. When we marry we do also marry into a family. That is more so elesewhere then in the west.  If I were to marry and move I would find out whether the family accepts me. I do not think I could handle marrying someone and their family did not accept me (or I accept them), truly accept me. Its hard enough to move eleswhere, let alone into a new way of life in a different culture and not have support.

As far as what to expect or the differences some is religious and some is cultural. It all depends what you've grown up and used to. 

Becoming a Moslem: only do that if your heart and mind speak to you. Learn what you can about Islam, read the Quran and listen to your heart and mind. To do it to please others is fraught with trouble. Islam is alot about intentions. Many women first hear about Islam through some man they met (this often happens since men are more out and about.) This may be romantic or not. But do it for you.

I would worry too about someone threatening me over anything. When you marry him and move there then you are on his land and in his culture. Who's to say he gets paranoid and THINKS you are doing something when in fact you are not. What will he do then?

I agree you should go there first and see if you can live in that way. This will let you know how the country is, how they feel about you and how he acts with you when you are in Egypt. Also, how his family treats you.  You do not just want to move there without knowing anything first.

Be careful,

Lameese