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nwelcome
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Hello, I'm a new Muslim and I'm getting married. I was raised Christian and need to know how close to that type of ceremony can it be. I know the general overview of it but I need details. How formal should it be? Can my guests (Muslim and Non) party together at the reception? What kind of music can be played? Do my guests have to comform to "dress code"? My Mom wants me to have 2 weddings so she can be a part of it. That's a bit excessive but how do I make her happy and still keep it Islamic? Oh, and what about the exchanging of rings? Help |
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lulu7
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Well--I can some what relate. My marriage was mixed actually. I had all of our similiar friends there and families. Our vows were done the muslim way, rings were exchanged actually after the vows were made, we almost forgot!!! We had both types of music, english and arabic music and dancing. And both Muslims and Non-Muslims did party together. The guests dressed formally yet there were a few who did wear shorter dresses but was overlooked. My mother too, wanted a "just non-muslim" wedding and yes, we did have our arguements, husbands come first!!! Yeah, even to this day my mother sometimes doesnt quite understand all the culture I do try to explain but you can only do so much. And I have been married 10 years. But do your best and Allah will do the rest, it's all in his hands anyway. May you be happy and a lifetime of happiness.
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Hayfa
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I guess the question is: do you want to know what is Islamically acceptable? Or what have people done culturally that is not necessarily Islamic?
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nwelcome
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Thanks, Lulu. I do want to know what is Islamically acceptable though. I want my friends and family to enjoy themselves but I want it to be pleasing to Allah even more. I just want to know how much of what I'm used to can I incorporate in to this wedding? |
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Hayfa
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well is dancing Islamic?? I have never heard that it is.. especially in mixed company. I may be wrong.. but to do it Islamic you would not have dancing.. at least I think. Someone with knowledge much better then mine could answer. Music.. hmm.. i think drumming is alright.. me I could never be into all that pomp and stuff. Doa ceremony, and eat a lot of good food... |
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charmsahead
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Assalamualikum hmmm...from what i've heard before, dancing is alright but when it's separate, like the girls can dance by themselves in a separate place from the guys. But I guess it kind of depends on your culture as well, like in some communities, there is no mixing of families in the wedding, but in some cultures, the families can mix together and have a co-ed wedding, where the guy's family as well as the girl's family are there. But yea, I don't know anything else about that... I also had a question...I grew up in America, but my parents are from India...I've always wanted a white wedding (i guess from the culture that i grew up with), but my mom is against me wearing white on my wedding, she says it's a very sad color and that i should dress up like the traditional Indian bride with a red dress. I heard the wearing white was sunna in a wedding...or something, can somebody clarify please. THanks, Idna Allah Hafiz |
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Hayfa
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Thank you niqab_ummi. That actualyl souhnds like the best wedding.. less stressful and easier to plan Also, would you say that extravagance is frowned upon? Would that be considered wasteful?
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