fulfill my haqq or grant me a talaaq

salaams

i have decided to take the advise regarding my ex. hes no longer a part of my life so i will pretend he doesnt exist n concentrate on other issues

i have plans for the weekend. im taking the kids shopping. insha allah on sunday im taking them to an orphanage for a visit. i have decided to invite at least one orphan child to sepnd eid with me n the kids. thereafter i would like her to come for the decmeber holidays when schools are closed. i think that i can make a differnece in a little girla life n i know my kids will welcome her into our home with open arms. i havent met the girl yet, but im looking for a girl who is about 9, my eldest daughters age. i know i have 4 kids of my own n lots of responsibilities, but i think i can hanlde one more child of that age

i never thought about this before but it just occured to me a few days ago that i would like to add value to someones life. i have a desire deep in my heart to care for an orphan child. alhamdulillah , Allah SWA has blessed me with 4 wonderful children n im very grateful for that. but i know i have lots of love to share with other kids as well. i will see how this goes n maybe Insha Allah i will even adopt a child in the near future

this feels like its my calling in life. its the first time in my life that i feel so passionate about this n i have a strong desire to reach out n help the orphans.

this will indeed fill a void in my life n give me a sense of purpose.

 Assalamu Alaikum Dear Sister,

 You should not sit by and allow your husband to disrespect you. You are just as entitled to fair treatment as your co-wife is. That is Islam. He is wrong and you need to talk to your Imam about it. Are you hesitating because you feel he is not really into you and that he'll use that as an excuse to let you go? I ask because I don't see how you have dealt with this situation for so long. It's almost like you're tiptoeing around trying not to tip over an already shaky boat.

Dear Rookaiya,

Your posts are wonderful and positive.

You have only a week left for the 2 weeks to be up and then we will review the plan I made.

NS

subhanallah

i called my hubby in a fit of rage. i know i wasnt supposed to n that i was to wait 2 weeks. but i couldnt contain myself. i was hurting too much n i needed to vent. so i called him n i told him a whole lot of crap. i cursed him n told him that he would never find happiness n peace of mind as long as he was opressing me.

then i hung up on him. i cried for a bit. i got more mad n i called him again. this time he hung up on me. so i called back n told him that if he ever dared hang up again i would go to his work n make a scene there n embarass him at work

i dont know where all this came from as i have been very calm n level headed. but today i just felt like i needed to erupt or i would die. i was such a mean person to him. i wanted to hurt him n punish him. i hate him so much right now. how could he do this to me'

did i ask him to be my nite in shinning armour? NOPE>>>>>>>>>i was getting along very well on my own after my talaaq. i never asked this man to persue me n talk me into being his second wife, only to have him mistreat me n mishandle me now. n step on my emotions. he said he loved me. he said i was his lost mate. he even questioned y this hadnt happened years ago, i.e me n him getting married. he has lied to me too many times than i care to remember

how can he live with himself. he calls himself a believer n a pious person. yet he treats me like crap. I cry everyday becos of him. now my kids have to suffer yet again. how could one man destroy so many lives. hes lower than the scum of the earth. hes a liar and a manipulator. he used me. now that he got what he wanted , he discarded me like garbage. where is the justice, someone please tell me where is the justice