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Friendship 
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 Posted: 18 November 2008 at 2:10pm |
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Assalamu alaikum.
Please understand that I cannot teach you Islam! Probably I am not supposed to join this forum! Friendship. |
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Posted: 18 November 2008 at 2:17pm |
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Assalaamu alaikum.
Just say that you do not know anything about the first 13 years of the holy Prophet's life in Makka. But do not argue. Friendship. |
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Chrysalis
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Posted: 20 November 2008 at 6:57am |
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LOL. No offense, but I think I now know why people didnt vote for you back home. . . :)
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"O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they showed mercy to me when I was young."
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Posted: 20 November 2008 at 3:50pm |
Jiminy Crickets!!!!!
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Posted: 20 November 2008 at 5:32pm |
The proclamation "this day have I completed the deen..... " was not made during the first 13 years of the holy Prophet's life in Makkah. Please understand that the revelation was progressive and Rules were not imposed overnight. The final verdict on each topic should be understood and followed. Thus we shall not bother to follow the direction the Sahaba were facing before the Prophet got the message regarding facing Ka'abah. Nor shall we follow the method of praying or number of prayers which were in practice before the Prophet's return from the assention. |
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Chinky
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Posted: 28 June 2011 at 3:47pm |
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Assalamu'alaikum
I received a marriage proposal from a guy who has wanted to get married to me for a few years now. I prayed Salaatul Istikhaarah and felt that I should agree to marry him. We were almost officially engaged and wedding plans were being discussed. However, just recently a huge argument had erupted between our two fathers, and my father has decided to call it quits. the guy is determined not to give up and convince the elders to agree again, but my father is determined not to agree to this marriage proposal. i have prayed Salaatul Istikhaarah again a few times, and each time I feel that I should trust Allah and not say no to this guy simply because of his father, because the guy himself has never disrespected my dad. I cannot see any solid reason for why I should say no to the guy, as he is an honest, hardworking man, and a practicing muslim. At the same time, since my father is completely against it, I don't want to go against his wishes. My father feels the guy is not right for me since he is not as educated as I am, but we both have the same Islamic and family values, which I feel is more important. I don't know what is the response to my Istikhaara, is it my gut feeling telling me not to say no to this guy, or is it my father's determination to say no? I have had several marriage proposals in the past, but all of them have fallen through for good reason, this is the only guy who has been persistent in marrying me for years now, and he still is, even though he knows my dad is not agreeable. If anyone has any advice, I would really appreciate it. I am in such a confused state, I don't know what to do. |
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Posted: 29 June 2011 at 3:39am |
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Assalamu alaiki Chinky.
Well, you did not mention why your father debunked. Depending upon ones' in depth knowledge of the Shari'a, the lady who is matured, educated could propose to her parents who she wants to marry. The parents ideally should consent, if they trust their daughter's morale behaviour. The question is not of Istihara but what the Sunna allows. You can read Ihya' 'Ulumud din by Imam Ghazali Vol. 2 or Kitab tarbiyat awlad. Parents are allowed to refuse if the husband is not qualified by the Shari'a. They are not to act contrary to it. Wassalamu alaiki. Friendship. |
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Posted: 29 June 2011 at 7:35am |
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Assalamu'alaikum,
Thank you for taking the time to reply. I will definitely take a look at the books you suggested. My father is a very educated man. He is also religious in his own right. His reason to refuse the guy was 1. because of his father, 2. because he doesn't have a formal university education, however, he does have a decent profession in mechanics, in which he has high prospects of excelling. My father doesn't believe in giving his daughters to anyone who does not have a university education, and he doesn't believe this guy has any direction in his life as to how he will successfully provide for his family. Are his reasons for saying no valid? Jazakallah for all your help. |
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