Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Ubaidullah bin Abi Mulaika: One of the daughters of 'Uthman died at Mecca. We went to attend her funeral procession. Ibn 'Umar and Ibn 'Abbas were also present. I sat in between them (or said, I sat beside one of them. Then a man came and sat beside me) 'Abdullah bin 'Umar said to 'Amr bin 'Uthman, "Will you not prohibit crying as Allah's Messenger ﷺ has said, 'The dead person is tortured by the crying of his relatives.?" Ibn 'Abbas said, "'Umar used to say so". Then he added narrating, "I accompanied 'Umar on a journey from Mecca till we reached Al-Baida. There he saw some travelers in the shade of a Samura (A kind of forest tree). He said (to me), "Go and see who those travelers are". So I went and saw that one of them was Suhaib. I told this to 'Umar who then asked me to call him. So I went back to Suhaib and said to him, "Depart and follow the chief of the faithful believers". Later, when 'Umar was stabbed, Suhaib came in weeping and saying, "O my brother, O my friend!" (on this 'Umar said to him, "O Suhaib! Are you weeping for me while the Prophet ﷺ said, "The dead person is punished by some of the weeping of his relatives?" Ibn 'Abbas added, "When 'Umar died I told all this to Aisha and she said, 'May Allah be merciful to 'Umar. By Allah, Allah's Messenger ﷺ did not say that a believer is punished by the weeping of his relatives. But he said, Allah increases the punishment of a non-believer because of the weeping of his relatives". Aisha further added, "The Qur'an is sufficient for you (to clear up this point) as Allah has stated: 'No burdened soul will bear another's burden'. " (35:18). Ibn 'Abbas then said, "Only Allah makes one laugh or cry". Ibn 'Umar did not say anything after that.
This hadith teaches us an important lesson about respecting those who have passed away and not causing them any more pain than what they are already going through after death. We should remember our deceased loved ones with fondness instead of mourning over them excessively which may cause them harm in afterlife according to Islamic teachings.
