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Topic: Salat al-istikhara
Posted By: ahlam
Subject: Salat al-istikhara
Date Posted: 31 August 2006 at 7:05pm

Asalamu Alaikum

Well I am engaged and recently I have become confused and I am not sure if he is the right one for me, so I prayed salat al-istikhara. I had a dream my uncle was talking to someone on the phone he said, "Are you sure you want to end the engagement?" He kept repeating that in a stern voice. I was also there watching him. I started to cry. But I am not sure if he was talking to my fiance. Then my grandma said she wanted to call my fiance. That's it. Does anyone know who I would ask to have my dream interpreted?

Thanks




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Posted By: righteous_4ever
Date Posted: 01 September 2006 at 4:01pm

Asalam o alaikum

You could ask sister fear_allah, she has this website and the imam translates dreams for you, its in arabic. Tell her the dream and she can ask the imam and intrepret it for you. Just pm her. Hope that helps.

 

Salam

 



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Posted By: najamsahar
Date Posted: 02 September 2006 at 1:11am

Dear sister Ahlam

This is what I would do.

First of, please pray to Allah to make the interpretation of the dream a good one. This is what a muslim does when the dream is confusing or scary. InshaAllah I am praying that this dream brings about good for you.

Next, Please do not tell about your dream to anyone. The dream should be told only to a trusted person who has only your good at heart and/or to a sheikh for its meaning and implication.

Third, repeat the Salatul Istikhaara. One two or three times. If possible you can say the dua of istikhaara after every prayer even.

A similar question was asked on islam-qa.com, I admire this sheikhs opinions, I am posting his answer and the link here.

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Question:
How can I benefit properly from istikhaarah? 
After I prayed istikhaarah after someone came to propose marriage to me, I dreamt that the sister of the suitor was dressing me in a green suit and was telling me that her brother would not give anything but whatever was beautiful. I hope that you can tell me the meaning of this dream so that I can be sure whether I did istikhaarah right.

Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.

There are a number of things that should be noted: 

Firstly: 

With regard to the dream that you have seen, you should ask people who have knowledge of that, whose religious commitment and �aqeedah you trust, so that they may explain its meaning to you. Beware of ignorant people and charlatans. 

Secondly: 

Many people think that following istikhaarah there has to be a dream or a feeling of ease in the heart, and so on, but that is not the case. Even if no such thing happens when a person has prayed istikhaarah and done his best to find out what is best for him, such as consulting people, examining the issue and asking those who have experience, then he goes ahead and does it, then it is hoped that this will be what is best for him, even if he does not feel at ease in his heart in the beginning. Even if we assume that he does not succeed in this matter that he goes ahead with after praying istikhaarah, it may be good for him even if he does not know it, but his Lord knows, may He be exalted. 

Ibn al-Haaj al-Maaliki said: 

Some of them pray istikhaarah as prescribed in sharee�ah and then wait until they see a dream from which they will decide whether they should go ahead and do whatever they prayed istikhaarah about or not, or until someone else sees a dream for them. This does not count for anything, because the infallible one (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told us to pray istikhaarah and consult others, not to rely on what is seen in dreams. End quote 

Al-Madkhal, 4/37 

Thirdly: 

If we assume that the interpretation of the dream suggests something good, good dreams are no more than hints, but they cannot be relied on. Rather you should try to find out and ask about the one who has proposed marriage, make sure whether he is religiously committed and of good character, and other things that you should find out about him. If you are certain of these matters then the good dream is no more than a message to be of good cheer when proceeding.  

We ask Allaah to make goodness easy for you, and to bless you. 

And Allaah knows best.
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Hope this helps you, you can also go to islam-qa.com and search for istikhaara or dreams.

-Najamsahar



Posted By: UmmTaaha
Date Posted: 08 September 2006 at 1:29am

http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.asp?HD=1&ID=1027&CATE=4 - Istekhara

http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.asp?HD=1&ID=1055&CATE=4 - Istekhara and decisions of marriage

http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.asp?HD=1&ID=1056&CATE=4. - The Guidance Prayer

Hope this helps, insha allah

 



Posted By: UmmAmara
Date Posted: 19 September 2006 at 1:40am

Sister Ahlam,Assalam aleikum...

All these above are true according to islam.I wish to add that when u perform Isti-khaara,U not necessarily hav to dream.Allah SW is the All knower.It can happen that u see to find some1  u were engaged to just distant themselves from u,if they were not of good to u.

Once i did Isti-khaara on this man who wanted to marry me.I later dreamt about a man(it wasnt him frm my dream) talk abt the same business the man who wanted to marry me was engaged.When i woke up i checked the time only to see it was 5am in the morning.Real dreams are said to happen btw 2-3am.The other times,its the shaitan playing tricks on u.Since i wasnt sure abt it,i stil cont to pray istikhaara.Later,i found that the guy started distancing himself from me.Eventually we parted ways,i dont know how til now.But we never argued.God works in miraculous ways.

So never expect dreams...just expect outcomes.

 



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Posted By: aasiya
Date Posted: 20 September 2006 at 7:39am

salaamz every1...

i am a new member i just joined today

im in a very horrible situation....i wnat to marry  some1 of my choice....my parents do knw him as he is distant relative but they are not at all keen on it

iv told my mum how i feel n not my dad as i cant speak with my dad on that level...

they want me to get married to sum1 in the close family

im jus soo confuzed

dont know what to do

ive known this guy for 3 yrs nw n i knw he really loves me 2...

i wnt ot do istikara to c if me n him can work cuz my mum has sed i will never b able to survive in tht family n tht it will never work

im scrd ot do istikara as i will only wnt to c wot i wnt to n nethng negative i wud jus try n justify it n mke it sound good

do uknow any molanas or ne1 who d istikaras on behalf of other ppl? or is it sumthng tht an invidiual has to do themselves?

thanx alot n i will appreciate any ideas or help

ALLAH HAFIZ



Posted By: UmmTaaha
Date Posted: 20 September 2006 at 8:17pm

Dear aasiya,

If you scroll a bit on this string you will find a post from me where I have posted links for istekhara prayer. Click on those and you can learn the procedure.

Though I would not know your situation, however as a genaral rule, one must not choose a person for marriage who s/he does not want to marry. That can be a very tough circumstance to deal with in future, and for the rest of ones life. 

Another thing is that a woman should choose a man of taqwa, and that is the best choice for marriage. If your future spouse's adherence to religion is way less than yours, that can again be a very difficult situation for you to live in.

Therfore, chose with care. It is not wrong to say no to your parents, if you do not want a husband of their chosing. Islamically you have a right to choose, so you can be a little bold about it.

Insha allah khair 



Posted By: tamina
Date Posted: 13 October 2006 at 7:44pm

Asalaam u alikum to yous all

I want to ask yous something --- after reading all the above i want to put my issue and see if yous help me ---- recentaly someone asked my hand --- and after doing istekhara i said no to him --- my parents werent happy about the outcome --- and then that boys father past away -- which is also my cousin --- but my parents never said NO to thr family --- now my mum would ask me again to think about it again --- i dont knwo what to say --- in my dream i didnt see anything bad ---- but just his mum abit unhappy --- my parents did say just a few day back -- that Thanks to Allah swt that i said no --- other wise everyone would've said that by me entring thr house killed thr my uncle and os on ----- now i have a very good friend -- who likes me and he is a lot in to islam just like the other one --- i dont know which one to go -- with my friend one -- he has never said anything directaly but has said to my girlfriend that he is intrested -- and he always show alot of care --- but my family does not know thr family ---- i just want to ask if anyone help me and advice me of what should i do? ---- May Allah SWT rewards you all.

Wasalam!



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May He swt forgive us all. Ameen


Posted By: UmmTaaha
Date Posted: 13 October 2006 at 8:04pm

Tamina,

I would not know the real answer to your situation, so please do not consider this more than a mere suggestion.

I think one should marry where one finds comfort of heart. It is important for the future of the marriage. However, as a muslim first of all one must also regard the matter of adherence to deen in the prospective spouse.

If the brother you like is a religious person, and your heart is giving him priority, you should go for him - this is only my opinion.

Many parents think nothing can be better for their children than what they deem right. Again you must check, if the person they  are chosing for you is religious or not. What are the basis on which your parents are choosing this person for you. Is it to strength the family ties, further their business relationship, or any other worldly motivation? or their choice is actually motivated through the sunnah ways of choosing a prospective husband for one's daughters.

It wont be wrong to say no to your parents, if their choices are not based on the sunnah.

 

 



Posted By: tamina
Date Posted: 14 October 2006 at 4:38am

Salaam u alikum!

Let me start first with saying thank you so very much for responding back to my message ---- May Allah SWT rewrad you for it.

UmmTaaha, I dont like no one --- to me its not important to like anyone --- I believe in love after marrage ---- but I just didnt liked the fact of marrying my cousin --- he is overseas and i havent seen him --- and my parents wanted me to get married to him just caz they like him --- nothing before or after it ----- my dad is much better then my mum --- i dont have a big sister --- and it is hard for me to share it with anyone as my srouding is not muslims --- and if thr is they are family and i cant trust them to say all this ---- I am 22 and mum tell me it is about time to get married and that maybe afew years later no one would ask my hand --- and the friend that i am saying is just a friend -- and i was introduce to him by one of my friends and he is 30, my cousin is 27 -- so i dont know ---- but your words were the world to me --- it helped me alot and it made me feel so good, i mean it is great to see someone respond back --- may allah swt reward you for that.

thank you agian =]

wasalaam

Tamina



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May He swt forgive us all. Ameen


Posted By: UmmTaaha
Date Posted: 15 October 2006 at 7:36pm

Walaikum assalam Tamina,

There was nothing to thank me about, honestly I did not think I was doing anything great

May I ask you why you said no to your cousin after the istekhara? Did you receive any indication, in form of a inspiration or anthing?

Marriage decisions are difficult to make, but i do believe in getting married in an early age. The prophet (saw) has recommended this. If you are not busy in anything particular which necessitates delaying marriage plans, I think your mum is correct in advicing you to prepare for tying the knot. - Of course you should make the choice carefully, after having taken some steps to know a few details in your future husband.

 Make dua for yourself sister, especially in these last days of Ramadan, they are very special. Ask allah to send for you a husband with whom you can have a cherished marriage, and a relationships that aids your growth in deen, insha allah.

If you need to talk to anyone you can send me PMs.

 



Posted By: najamsahar
Date Posted: 16 October 2006 at 2:51am

Some facts about Istikhaara

 

-Istikhaara means seeking divine help

 

-Istikhaara is really a state of mind, when one is faced with a dilemma and finding it impossible to make a decision, the muslim turns to Allah to help him the decision making

 

-Anyone can do istikhaara for oneself. There is absolutely no reason to ask someone else to do it

 

-Istikhaara is made by praying 2 rakats sunnah and making the dua for istikhaara. The dua is in Arabic and this is the translation. One condition is that the person has an understanding of the dua, that he/she has an awareness of what they are reciting. By reading the translation below, we know how beautiful this dua is.

 

O Allah I consult you as you are all-Knowing.

And I appeal to you to give me power as you are Omnipotent

I beg of your infinite bounty

You have the power and I do not

You know and I know not

You are the Knower of hidden matters.

O Allah, if in Your knowledge this matter (state the matter) is good for me in my religion, my livelihood and for my affairs (he also said �for my present life and future life�)

Then ordain it for me and make it easy for me.

 

And if You know that this matter is not good for me in my religion, my livelihood or for my affairs( he also said �for my present life and future life�)

Then keep it away from me, and take it away from me,

And choose what is good for me, wherever it may be and make me pleased with it.

 

(Bukhari)

 

-State your object for doing the salatul istikhaara and this completes it.

 

-The prayer can be done at any time.

 

-There is no need to offer extra sunnah. Simply do the dua after any sunnah of regular prayers.

 

-This prayer can be repeated for the same purpose any number of times.

 

-The goal of istikhaara is to get a peace of mind that now whatever turn your life may take, it is Allah�s Will and not yours.

 

-The common misconceptions especially among Indian-pakistani people is that �one should pray it at night and go to sleep and they will get a dream about what they should do�

Dream interpretation is a very serious matter and dreams may or may not be a result of the istikhaara.

�It should be done by a pious person�. Anyone can do istikhaara, Allah has never asked us to pray through someone.

 

I request anyone who reads this and anyone who wants to do istikhaara, please try to get the maximum information, there are many sites that can give you the sunnah way of doing things.

 

Najamsahar



Posted By: UmmAmara
Date Posted: 17 October 2006 at 4:38am

Wel said...

Barakallah Fi..



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Posted By: mariakhan
Date Posted: 25 October 2006 at 12:56pm

Salam,

I tried to do as much research on the topic of Salat-ul-Istikhara as I could, however, my only resource really is the internet, so that is what i utilized.  Anyways, i prayed salat-ul-istikhara, according to how i was supposed to, and the first time i did it, nothing happened..in fact, i just felt numb, i mean i felt more before the prayer then i did after, and i dreamt nothing....(im praying salat-ul-istikhara bc i THINK im in love with someone, and he's made it clear that he's in love with me, but im just not sure if he's the one im meant to marry, as he lives in another country and with the distance, feelings can get greatly distorted) so i prayed it a second time, and this time, a little while after the prayer, while i was laying in my bed, i all of a sudden had this feeling, it started from the pit of my stomach, and then went throughout my whole body, a sort of fuzzy feeling, and all of a sudden i felt extremely light, like i could be floating, and this feeling made me want to smile.  It happened 3 times in total.... and then nothing, and then i fell asleep.  I was wondering if anyone could perhaps help me interpret this, or guide me to someone who could....unfortunately i live in a small muslim community, and so i cannot really ask anyone here for their advice, not even our religious leader, as everyone is a "family friend" and i really dont want this getting out, until im sure this is what i want.   Im still very confused....and i think i will do the isthikhara prayer again, until i find a more clear result, but i just wanted to know if i should be looking for signs like what i experienced, or am i too be looking for something else?

thanks so much,

wa'salam



Posted By: snowwhite_797
Date Posted: 19 May 2007 at 11:24am
assalam alaikum
as u said k istekhara can b repeated for the same purpose any number of times. are u sure abt it?? it can b repeated any number of times if the situation is changing or u r getting confusion in doing smthing?
     allahhafiz


Posted By: Alham
Date Posted: 03 October 2020 at 8:54pm
Hi there, I know that you have posted this in 2006, however I am in the exact same situation as you and subhanallah I had the same exact dream as you.. I was wondering if you had ever gotten that dream interpreted and if you are still with your then fiancé. This might be a long shot but I am desperate as I am in a state of not knowing if my fiancé is the one for me. If this gets to you, please respond! Thank you ! 



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