Salaam,

We live in a vain world.

We live in a world where money is important and not kindness.

We live in a world where culture is important and not goodness.

We live in a world where deeds are done for other than humane reasons and not for humane purposes.

In knowing this,we men should be careful of choosing our mate. Of course we have talked about this before but sometimes what we talk about we don't put them into application in our daily lives so I hope you brothers lend an ear here. In this life I personally don't think I'll find a woman who fits my qualities but here is my list

1.Intelligent

2.Sensitive

3.Open minded

4. Loving

5. Someone who sees beyond your flaws.

6. Someone who loves you for you

7. Someone who prioritizes with you

8. Communication* This is number 8 on my list because intleligence is most important because you cannot have communication without intelligence because communication is not common to everyone.

9. Someone who is diverse mentally*

I mean, a woman who is not always orthodox in the sense of the spectrum of life. A woman who can compromise some ideas with her man without compromising her ideals.

ak_m_f wrote: salman wrote: I think a woman should also be shy. shy? man what year is it in India? is it 1820 ?

Don't worry salman, I'm a shy person

salman wrote: angel, are you a woman?

yes

rami wrote: Bi ismillahir rahmanir raheem Rasul allah [sallah llahu alaihi wa sallam] said every religion has its own unique predominant chrachteristic or quality and the Characteristic of my ummah is Hayah [shyness].

That's new to me.

Wa alaikum Salaam Salman,

the topic is not about shyness but about the qualities that are important in a woman. Also before I answer you let me remind the brothers that I difn't mention deen as a quality here because I assume that we all know that a woman's deen and her Iman are important.

Now to answer your question Salman what do I mean by shyness? Well Rami brought up that quality and I merely commented in saying that, that too is a good quality to have. A woman who is shy is not as forthcoming about herself than a woman who is not shy. Being forthcoming is not a bad quality, but without revealing much of herself and her character it leaves a mystery which allows ambition on the man's part to exist and it gives the man more ambition ot get to know the woman better. He strives to know her. Know things about her and strives to be the things she detest.

Israfil wrote: Salaam, We live in a vain world. We live in a world where money is important and not kindness. We live in a world where culture is important and not goodness. We live in a world where deeds are done for other than humane reasons and not for humane purposes. In knowing this,we men should be careful of choosing our mate. Of course we have talked about this before but sometimes what we talk about we don't put them into application in our daily lives so I hope you brothers lend an ear here. In this life I personally don't think I'll find a woman who fits my qualities but here is my list 1.Intelligent 2.Sensitive 3.Open minded 4. Loving 5. Someone who sees beyond your flaws. 6. Someone who loves you for you 7. Someone who prioritizes with you 8. Communication* This is number 8 on my list because intleligence is most important because you cannot have communication without intelligence because communication is not common to everyone. 9. Someone who is diverse mentally* I mean, a woman who is not always orthodox in the sense of the spectrum of life. A woman who can compromise some ideas with her man without compromising her ideals.

assalamualaikum brother israfil

you missed one very important point.

a muslim woman should be religious and pious.

Who said I wanted to be in charge? Jenni calm down on the feminist extremism the subject here is about the qualities in a woman what men should look for. maybe your comment should be directed to fistofallah and not "men."