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Topic: Marriage

Posted By: Cmendez74
Subject: Marriage
Date Posted: 08 July 2018 at 11:46am

Asalamalekum. I need guidance and courage since my husband of 8 years decided that he needs to find his happiness in life. We got married in Egypt and my husband moved out here after 3 years of being married. While we lived in his country, he was a kind and loving husband but once he made his life here in the US, he changed so much. I converted to Islam a few years back and have always been a good wife. I cook, clean, and treat him with so much love and affection but he doesn’t seem to want that. I don’t understand why he did this? He states he’s been miserable for a long time but yet he ALWAYS did everything he wanted and went out whenever he wanted. Sometimes he wouldn’t invite me to go with him and I would stay at home waiting for him. He started treating me like if he hated me and would put me down so much even in public. He would make me cry and never apologized to me. How can a man treat a loving woman so bad? I’m just torn inside and feel like I was not good enough for him but I never did anything wrong except for loving him and wanted to spend every moment with my husband. I don’t know how to live knowing he doesn’t want me in his life????
Please guide me!
Thank you
Cynthia

Replies:

Posted By: Dr. Aslam
Date Posted: 12 July 2018 at 12:26pm

Wa alaikum salam,

It is sad that he behaving like this. Please sit down with him to discuss the issues and his concerns as well and try to resolve it because you two are the only ones who would overcome this situation.

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Best Regards,
Aslam Abdullah

Posted By: abuayisha
Date Posted: 13 July 2018 at 6:11am

Wa alaikum salaam, and welcome. Did he acquire US citizenship through marriage to you?

Posted By: Cmendez74
Date Posted: 13 July 2018 at 10:45pm

Yes my husband acquired US citizenship through our marriage. I hope he did not marry me for this reason 😞😞😞

Posted By: Muslimah82
Date Posted: 16 August 2018 at 12:54am

Assalam walaikum. Your husband sounds like a jerk. He changed completely after coming here. Seems like he was using you and he might be cheating. You should be glad to leave him and marry a real loving husband but that can be hard to find these days. Do Istikarah Salat and see what happens. May Allah grant you a good husband. Even if you leave him, don't leave Islam. At least one great thing happened with your marriage to him: It was your way to Islam. Stay strong.