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Topic: Acceptance
Posted By: Shiloh4#
Subject: Acceptance
Date Posted: 08 March 2018 at 6:29pm
I converted to Islam (nondemoninational) a couple years ago at 22 years old. I still live with my prejudice parents and brother. I am financially and,to a degree, medically dependent on them. I didn’t think they would be Islamophobic (or anti-religion in general). They hate trump. I can practice praying in secrecy but no other practices such as fasting can be practiced. These are “my house, my rules” people who get very demanding and coercive. Advice?



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Posted By: Tim the plumber
Date Posted: 08 March 2018 at 11:40pm
Originally posted by Shiloh4# Shiloh4# wrote:

I converted to Islam (nondemoninational) a couple years ago at 22 years old. I still live with my prejudice parents and brother. I am financially and,to a degree, medically dependent on them. I didn’t think they would be Islamophobic (or anti-religion in general). They hate trump. I can practice praying in secrecy but no other practices such as fasting can be practiced. These are “my house, my rules” people who get very demanding and coercive. Advice?


1, I reccomend the book ; https://www.amazon.co.uk/Parents-Overcoming-Hurtful-Legacy-Reclaiming/dp/0553814826" rel="nofollow - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Parents-Overcoming-Hurtful-Legacy-Reclaiming/dp/0553814826

2, Whilst I am an atheist this is my choice just like it is your choice to be Islamic. It is not acceptable for them to not allow you to grow up and be an adult.

3, You should check out what the options of you living away from them are.

Good luck.



Posted By: Dr. Aslam
Date Posted: 10 March 2018 at 9:52am
Peace,

Thank you for your question. Allah does not burden a soul with things it cannot bear. God easy. Once you are independent and start earning and in control of your life and time, practice your deen that you are unable to practice now.

There are a few options.

1. Leave you family and be on your own because someone might say, Allah will take care of you. I have seen many people in this situation. Not many Muslims come forward to help people in this situation. They might help for a day or two. Even Muslim organizations would not be able to sponsor your needs for a longer time. So looking at your reality, focus on what you can do and then create appropriate opportunities to live your life according to your belief system.

2. Stay with the family, pray privately and try to disclose your Islam gradually and slowly in a way that it convinces them of your sincerity and commitment and rational decision. Once they are convinced, you will be able to practice it fully.

3. Stay with the family and maintain the status quo.

I would suggest for the second option with the advice that you avoid things that are considered forbidden in faith.




Posted By: Shiloh4#
Date Posted: 13 March 2018 at 9:11pm
I will go with #2, but I might wait until after Islamophobic trump is out of office. He is a part of the reasn they are against it. Thank you



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