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Clear you mind, trust on her honest approach and make own and her life easier and happier.  
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Assalamu'Alaikum,

The only advice you should seek out on this type of issue is in the Quran' and Sunnah...and than if you still have questions about this very personal issue it is best to speak with a scholar or Imam at your local masjid or Islamic center....

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Nice piece of advice
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Originally posted by Fallen Fallen wrote:

>>>>My other question is with the western influence:
Is this becoming more common among our young Muslim youth (commit pre-marital sex)? If so I'm interested in knowing the statistics/estimates of it all.<<<<

How is pre-marital sex a western influence? Having sex outside marriage is fairly common in all cultures and religions. I'm sure in Muhammad's time people were having it and after his passing people were continuing to have it. Ahh, it only makes sense that when the scriptures came to those people (Arabs) and if, the scripture mentions a law which the Muslim must abstain from pre-marital sex then I'm sure there was some pre-exisiting phenonmena (pre-marital sex) going on or else why would God make it a rule?

You are right, it was there before Islam came. Islam has guided us to the right path. That was some 1400 years back. Now it has been institutionalized by the west (Live together). Unfortunately now some people are indulging into it because of western influence.

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Assalaam alaikum AskariMan,
just re-iterating:
  1. you are not married yet so back-out if it bothers you so much
  2. she was in a relationship so she liked him and trusted him - it wasn't nothing - she may have even loved him
  3. trust her - she chose to tell you when she didn't have to - you may or may not have found out after marriage
  4. doesn't make sense - you say you love her but you don't even trust her and the only reason for your distrust is because she voluntarily told you she had been with another man
  5. you are behaving like a spoilt brat - if it bothers you back-out - don't waste her time - how are you any different from that other guy she trusted (and realised too late that she made a mistake)
it is very good that you have refrained in the face of temptation - if you are fair to her, maybe she will love you all the more for it.
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Assalamu Alaikum:

I agree with what the others have written regarding the Sister.  As for Muslims and pre-marital sex... the double standard that has existed since time began still plays on.  Most families will look the other way if their sons are playing around before marriage, but not if their daughters are.  Yet women have physical needs as well.  Many parents make marriage difficult with their requirements regarding the groom, bride, mahr, whatever.  The cost of marriage is prohibitive for some.  Given all that, yes, it seems that premarital sex is on the rise for both sexes.  One also hears about muta or secret marriages happening in Sunni societies as well.

She's brave to tell you... and honest.  It means she trusts you a lot, because if you were to tell anybody what she told you, it could have serious repercussions for her.  Consider that a very good sign.  Both of her honesty and the trust she has for you.

Peace.
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