Private messages to women

Israfil wrote: Sister Herjihad why would you get upset at what I previously said>? It's quite true.....At least Angel sees my point. It's kind of tiresome for me even to discuss this, I don't even PM any Muslimah's anyway.

Because your statement:   A true woman of God indeed, was uncalled for and untrue.

salaamu alaykum

I think it is all up to the individual person.  In my case it is not a problem for me to discuss issues in private.  I have a husband whom I love dearly, and it is appropriate (imo) for me to try to answer any concerns or perhaps explain something I had said in a post.  I have many male friends....my husband has female friends.  We are faithful and love only each other.  But I think we have that one thing which is a MUST in any marriage, and that is trust.  Like Angela, I met my husband many years ago online, strictly by chance....a long funny story I won't bore you with right now.  We finally ended up married and very happy with each other.  To make a long story short, I don't have a problem talking with men in a platonic manner.  My husband doesn't mind that I "chat" with men, in fact I often discuss some of the interesting issues I have been chatting about........and he does the same with me.  We are quite secure in the knowledge that we have no interest in having any sort of inappropriate relationship with the opposite gender. 

I know that Jesus spoke with many women while he was here on earth, i.e., the woman at the well, Mary Magdalene, etc. 

But for those ladies who do feel uncomfortable, or even perhaps shy, talking in a private message to a man, they should be respected and in no way, shape, or form coerced into feeling the conversation is mandatory.  It is NOT, and they have every right to just click the delete button.  That's all it takes....end of story!  Oh, and don't list your private email address unless you want to talk with strangers.  We really never know who we're talking to here....except for the relatively few individuals who have met personally.

God's Peace!