Brother in law living with us

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Assalamo alaikum, 
I am new to this site. 

Me and my husband have been married for just over a year. This is our second marriage for both of us. We have had many issues since day one because of my husbands lies and infidelity. He was in a serious relationship with another woman and wanted to marry her. His family lied to us and said it is just a rumour (before the wedding). After the wedding, I found out about his habits of using escorts (throughout our marriage). I have had infections because of him. I have gone through hell and back trying to save our marriage. My parents have also tried their best to support me. 

Most recently, his brother has moved into our two bedroom flat for work purposes. I feel uncomfortable by this and an invasion of my privacy. He has already caused issues and tension between me and my in laws because of things he tells them, be it if food isn't ready or I have a family function to attend. My mother and father in law are now aware of my husbands misdoings during our marriage, but I got no sympathy. 

I feel like I am being taken advantage of. I have sacrificed a great deal for our marriage to work and to try to give my husband respect. However, he always sides with his family whenever I voice my opinion. I can't always be second best. 

What should I do to make him realise?

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hopeforthebest Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Joined: 24 July 2018 Location: england Status: Offline Points: 3	Post Options Post Reply Quote hopeforthebest Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: Brother in law living with us Posted: 24 July 2018 at 1:39am
	Assalamo alaikum, I am new to this site. Me and my husband have been married for just over a year. This is our second marriage for both of us. We have had many issues since day one because of my husbands lies and infidelity. He was in a serious relationship with another woman and wanted to marry her. His family lied to us and said it is just a rumour (before the wedding). After the wedding, I found out about his habits of using escorts (throughout our marriage). I have had infections because of him. I have gone through hell and back trying to save our marriage. My parents have also tried their best to support me. Most recently, his brother has moved into our two bedroom flat for work purposes. I feel uncomfortable by this and an invasion of my privacy. He has already caused issues and tension between me and my in laws because of things he tells them, be it if food isn't ready or I have a family function to attend. My mother and father in law are now aware of my husbands misdoings during our marriage, but I got no sympathy. I feel like I am being taken advantage of. I have sacrificed a great deal for our marriage to work and to try to give my husband respect. However, he always sides with his family whenever I voice my opinion. I can't always be second best. What should I do to make him realise?

Dr. Aslam Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Admin Group Male Islam Joined: 24 February 2018 Location: California, USA Status: Offline Points: 279	Post Options Post Reply Quote Dr. Aslam Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 25 July 2018 at 10:07am
	Wa alaikum, Infidelity, disrespect of your privacy, and emotional abuse. I doubt that he would realize what he has done to you. Talk to him straight and tell him that if he does not change, walk out. It is better to live in dignity than be abused.
	Best Regards, Aslam Abdullah

Muslimah82 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Female Joined: 30 May 2018 Status: Offline Points: 20	Post Options Post Reply Quote Muslimah82 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 16 August 2018 at 1:00am
	Assalam walaikum. Leave this nasty sinner. You don't want Aid's. Don't be scared of another divorce.