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   Asalamalekum. I need guidance and courage since my husband of 8 years decided that he needs to find his happiness in life. We got married in Egypt and my husband moved out here after 3 years of being married. While we lived in his country, he was a kind and loving husband but once he made his life here in the US, he changed so much. I converted to Islam a few years back and have always been a good wife. I cook, clean, and treat him with so much love and affection but he doesn’t seem to want that. I don’t understand why he did this? He states he’s been miserable for a long time but yet he ALWAYS did everything he wanted and went out whenever he wanted. Sometimes he wouldn’t invite me to go with him and I would stay at home waiting for him. He started treating me like if he hated me and would put me down so much even in public. He would make me cry and never apologized to me. How can a man treat a loving woman so bad? I’m just torn inside and feel like I was not good enough for him but I never did anything wrong except for loving him and wanted to spend every moment with my husband. I don’t know how to live knowing he doesn’t want me in his life????
Please guide me!
Thank you 
Cynthia 

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Cmendez74 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Female Joined: 08 July 2018 Location: Santa Ana Status: Offline Points: 3	Post Options Post Reply Quote Cmendez74 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: Marriage Posted: 08 July 2018 at 11:46am
	Asalamalekum. I need guidance and courage since my husband of 8 years decided that he needs to find his happiness in life. We got married in Egypt and my husband moved out here after 3 years of being married. While we lived in his country, he was a kind and loving husband but once he made his life here in the US, he changed so much. I converted to Islam a few years back and have always been a good wife. I cook, clean, and treat him with so much love and affection but he doesn’t seem to want that. I don’t understand why he did this? He states he’s been miserable for a long time but yet he ALWAYS did everything he wanted and went out whenever he wanted. Sometimes he wouldn’t invite me to go with him and I would stay at home waiting for him. He started treating me like if he hated me and would put me down so much even in public. He would make me cry and never apologized to me. How can a man treat a loving woman so bad? I’m just torn inside and feel like I was not good enough for him but I never did anything wrong except for loving him and wanted to spend every moment with my husband. I don’t know how to live knowing he doesn’t want me in his life???? Please guide me! Thank you Cynthia

Dr. Aslam Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Admin Group Male Islam Joined: 24 February 2018 Location: California, USA Status: Offline Points: 279	Post Options Post Reply Quote Dr. Aslam Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 12 July 2018 at 12:26pm
	Wa alaikum salam, It is sad that he behaving like this. Please sit down with him to discuss the issues and his concerns as well and try to resolve it because you two are the only ones who would overcome this situation.
	Best Regards, Aslam Abdullah

abuayisha Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Muslim Joined: 05 October 1999 Location: Los Angeles Status: Offline Points: 5105	Post Options Post Reply Quote abuayisha Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 13 July 2018 at 6:11am
	Wa alaikum salaam, and welcome. Did he acquire US citizenship through marriage to you?

Cmendez74 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Female Joined: 08 July 2018 Location: Santa Ana Status: Offline Points: 3	Post Options Post Reply Quote Cmendez74 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 13 July 2018 at 10:45pm
	Yes my husband acquired US citizenship through our marriage. I hope he did not marry me for this reason 😞😞😞

Muslimah82 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Female Joined: 30 May 2018 Status: Offline Points: 20	Post Options Post Reply Quote Muslimah82 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 16 August 2018 at 12:54am
	Assalam walaikum. Your husband sounds like a jerk. He changed completely after coming here. Seems like he was using you and he might be cheating. You should be glad to leave him and marry a real loving husband but that can be hard to find these days. Do Istikarah Salat and see what happens. May Allah grant you a good husband. Even if you leave him, don't leave Islam. At least one great thing happened with your marriage to him: It was your way to Islam. Stay strong.