The responsibilities of a Male in a Marriage

Assalamualaikum, I have a dilemma based on the below. I don't have much of a listening ear, I would preferred an opinion that is no bias and everything, so if someone could help me out or explain things, I would be more than happy.

I am getting married to the love of my love this coming April 2018. All the preparations are in order. However as you know, leading up to the marriage, there are bound to have challenges and what not.

This girl I know is very independent, everything has to go her way. She is also stubborn which means like if she dislike something or what, she will not do it and has even tell me - don't hope that I will change when we are married, she will still be the same true self of her.

She has her sweet side as well, from the above paragraph you may think why she is the one for me.. well, when we got together as boyfriend and girlfriend, the usual.. go on dates, she likes to cook for me, surprise me with things that I like etc, basically all things that make me happy.

But the problem now is that, you see. I am the guy in the relationship. I do not want to sound DOMINANT, girls should no way play second fiddle. I can understand that. But from what I heard from friends and you know marriage love courses, wives will tend to you know, listen to the husband. Don't get me wrong, I will NEVER do anything to hurt her or do something beyond her comfort zone. But yeah, more like simple decision making or when we need to make a decision over something, I just hope that she will give in to me, but somehow during this relationship for the past 6 years, majority of the time is her.

And that, I have to be the one to always give in to her. In the future, after we get married, what if I am not able to impose some form of authority.. you know, being the husband and all. She rarely gives in and when we argue, she likes to walk away and just keep quiet. She does not like to talk it out and you know, whatever it is, gets irritated easily.

What do you guys think, I do not want to be the lady in the relationship once we are married. I do not know.. recently because of this, i tend to be more agigated to my love ones (except for her) because when we argue about something, at the end of the day, IT'S ALWAYS MY FAULT. Like when she did something wrong and when i try to rectify, she complains that i kept asking too many questions. So the problem then switch to me.

I do not know where else to go to now, anybody got some insights they would like to share with me?

"Men are the maintainers of women, because Allah has made some of them to excel others...� (4:34).

The Almighty Allah regards men as the guardians of their families and states in the Holy Qur'an that:
الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ
And women have rights similar to the rights of men in a just manner, and the men have a degree (of advantage) over them..." (2:228).
Some responsibilities of Islam men towards marriage:

1. Love your wife
2. Respect wife
3. Take care her
4. Keep good manners
5. Do not complain unnecessarily
6. Do not quarrel.
If you would love to learn more into this topic, this site would be helpful. Alim.org http://alim.org/