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Abu Loren
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Asalaamu Alaykum Bro you are the head of your household and as such you have a duty to bring your child up as a Muslim. It doesn't matter what you were before or if your wife does not support you in this. It is your responsibility to care for and look after your wife and your child in equal measures but do not shy away from your responsibilities to your daughter. Teach her about Islam and In Shaa Allah from a young age she will embrace it and be a good Muslimah for life. Salaam |
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La Ilaha IllAllah
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ProudSlave
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You are 100% correct! My daughter and I have long conversations about what Allah has done for us. She understands a lot, for her age. I am not neglecting my duty. I am however taking a slow approach (she's four). Too much rigidity, at this point, has the potential to get me further from the goal than closer. Pulling rank and laying down the law would be met with huge resistance, not by my daughter, but rather many family members. It could even result in divorce and me becoming a smaller influence in her life. Trust me, I'm "taking care of business" I'm just using a delicate and diplomatic approach. IBAHA411 - I'll definitely shoot ya an email. |
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lady
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Your interest on whom to marry is a reflection of your deen. You won't understand love until after marriage. Just be patient brother. I did give u instructive advise. I told u what u needed to hear and not what u wanted to hear.
Allah (SWT) has made it clear to us who we can marry. So if u don't listen to HiM then who are u listening to? Edited by lady - 03 February 2015 at 8:19pm |
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ibaha411
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Brother ProudSlave,
I would be so happy, please write me in your free time. Regards, Ismail |
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baekxingjo
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Hi! Ibaha
I am curious what happen after all... It’s been 4yrs already. Did you marry her or not? 🙂 |
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asep garutea
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Assalamu alaykum Ismail Baha, sorry I just found out what you wrote in this forum. Hopefully my advice is not too late. I just want to convey the words of Allah Azza Wa Jalla in Surah Al Baqarah verse 221. Please contemplate that verse. Regards, asep garutea |
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shareit
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AOA My dear brother.
I wonder where shall I start from, but allow me by saying that "I've been in exact same shoes and traveled the same road for quite long while" until I reached to a conclusion. <I know its tough and I understand the anxiety and overthinking; please accept My heart felt love and sympathy for yourselves, I really admire your struggle> Earlier, I have been looking for answers all over the internet <just like you> and looked for any tiny ray of light, any favorable answers(which in this case would be something like "Its okie to marry a Buddhist girl with Muslim man" or even any chances of success) <I was desperately looking for answers> Now, Let me share the key resources I found during my research over 1.5 years, In fact now I am at peace with my decision. 1. I am sure you believe in Quran, lets refer to Chapter 2, verse 221 https://quran.com/2/221 Translation: And do not marry polytheistic women until they believe. And a believing slave woman is better than a polytheist, even though she might please you. And do not marry polytheistic men [to your women] until they believe. And a believing slave is better than a polytheist, even though he might please you. Those invite [you] to the Fire, but Allah invites to Paradise and to forgiveness, by His permission. And He makes clear His verses to the people that perhaps they may remember. My conclusion after reading this verse was: Marrying a non-Muslim lady is definitely out of question, Yes I like that Buddhist or hindu girl and I want her to accept Islam and believe in Allah, but I also don't want to push her into a religion just for the sake of marriage, the same is also prohibited in Islam and on Top of that I am not a preacher so chances are pretty slim. Allah will not ask me Why you fail to <convince> that particular person to embrace Islam, yes our duty is to share the message of Islam but not to stop by and wait and see are they following it or not, rather Allah will ask me about my level of iman and will ask me that Allah gave you the book Quran; Did you read it carefully and understood it, and did you act upon it? Clearly my internal discussion came to a conclusion that there is no way out and I must give in, as Quran being the guiding light for my life. But the internal struggle did not stop, I had already concluded that "this thing" is not gonna work out as an ideal family, either I am deceiving myself or what! 2. During this research I stumbled on a book about Fatherhood, its written by a christian theologian Myles Munroe, the book title is "The Fatherhood Principle", This book has helped me look into the core roles of a good Father. I am sure you love your parents and you want your own family to grow better in every aspect of but with out becoming a good Father you wont be able to do that. This book will give you practical concepts about Fatherhood, May I request you to read this book thoroughly, I really liked this book, and willing to seek help from it in future, since this book is based on Bible; with all due respect Muslims believe in Bible, do not let the Bible scripture confuse you, be very careful while reading it. link: http://phantocomp.weebly.com/uploads/1/9/8/3/19830307/fatherhood_principle_-_myles_munroe.pdf Kindly focus on the concepts being taught as per Bible. (Its easy) My Final Remarks: If you really want to save her from hellfire, leave her alone and pray for her, If she would get curious and willing to do her homework for understanding Islam, she will do it on her own pace, don't push her and Allah will open her heart towards Islam. It doesn't matter who marries her, Once she entered Islam she will be definitely smart enough to look for a man that suits her. Since you are already here, I can assume that you have already understood my thoughts and if not give me a second chance and re-read the whole message again. Now I will let you decide what is best for you. Believe you me, Once you have decided on this matter, you will see that there are many more aspects of life in terms of your personal Health goals, wealth goals, Time goals, relationships and spirituality. May Allah bless you with a successful life. Much Love.
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asep garutea
Senior Member Male Islam Joined: 18 January 2019 Location: Indonesia Status: Offline Points: 281 |
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All of that back to himself who will take the decision. Allah informs all Muslims in the Qur'an 2: 221, but whoever wants to follow His Word or not is someone's right because every human being will take responsibility in the hereafter for what he has done in the world. Islamic teaching forbids coercion in religion as in His Word. If a Muslim obeys Allah order, he will marry a Muslim girl. But if not, it is his responsibility with Allah who has created him. Whoever Muslim obeys or not the rules of his Lord, it is he himself who will be responsible in the eternal life hereafter. We live in this world only temporarily, meaning that the couple lives in the world also only temporarily, and even many of them whose love for someone is fading away. The conclusion is returning to the extent of a Muslim's faith, whether he wants to follow Allah's orders or not. May Allah bless us all. Aameen |
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