To Hijab or not to Hijab??? Help!

Bismillah,

Dear Pink, I don't wear a scarf anymore unless I go to the mosque.  I always wear it to the mosque, and take it off at home.  I wore it for many years along with a jilbab for a long time also.  I have seen Muslim women do different things, and have dealt with this myself.  When I first went to the mosque years ago with just long sleeves and loose pants, the sisters were offended and it was a bad experience for me. 

Very few people don't wear a scarf and long sleeves even just as interested visitors.  During funerals when non-Muslim women attended, no one minded that they didn't wear scarves.  It was their dad who had died, but they weren't Muslims. 

I reccomend to wear a scarf and long sleeves to the mosque for many reasons.  Then here is something additional.  Don't take it off in the parking lot.  Wait till you're down the street a bit.  There are sisters who would pull off their jilbabs and even skirts from over their jeans in the parking lot while waiting for their moms, and people really got busy talking about that with anger and resentment.  So in order not to cause this feeling, it would be good to wait.

I love Islaam because it opened my heart to belief in God after Christianity shattered it.  When I thought about the blood sacrifice of Jesus, I got upset and didn't know what to think.  Things didn't make sense to me.  The beauty of Christianity blends into Islaam.  In Islaam, Allah, The Most Loving, does not require any sacrifice except of our sinful ways to lead us to happy lives and rewards in heaven.

May Allah, The Glorious and Peace Giver, open your heart to His Way, and give you peace and properity in your life.

hi lapinkgurl,

i think hijab is not such an alien idea even for Christians, Mother Theresa wears headscarves, right? i see nuns wear it too. so it's really not a grandious out-of-this-world thing. & don't worry, hijabs can be gorgeous too... personally i like to see the black hijabs for Arab women, even with the black hijab, they're still naturally beautifully. muslim asians wear more colours, with flowery prints sometimes.

wearing the hijab, ppl hv to concentrate on ur personality.
so ur real self shines, rather than ur body parts.

still i must admit, some do find themselves shy with women in hijab.
they become more "subdued" with hijabi girls, maybe because they're shy to go hu-ha-hu-ha with a covered girl. in my last work, i felt a bit left out bcoz they become subdued when conversing with me, while they can joke & laugh with the non-hijabi girls. they can be flirty & all, it makes me want to drop my hijab as well so i could be more acceptable. but thank God i always see the Arab women in black hijabs visiting, so to set my priorities straight.

from my heart, i wish u love wearing the hijab. 



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Good tip, jenni