sallams...all...newbie...

As a mentioned...my issue is that my husband of about 20yr..made-up a scenerio ...and claims that I am ..bad ..wife and that all those 20yrs. he wasn't happy with me..and our 5children..ranging from college to teens to elementary school....kids and moved us around.....to mid.east to set himself up..for another marriage.....which he did accomplish...

now ..he has gotten the new lady and he has put her in the same house with me and my household. It is so...hard to accept his actions/betral/lies...then to see...him every other night going to her...what should i do...i mean...what is premissible..in Islam..in this regard...?? I really think that he is keeping me to raise our kids...then he will go about his business...with this other lady...

any advice....i mean i am not old...i just turned 40...and the new lady is in her mid thirties..she isn't attractive..but...he is enjoying her..as she is still new....

we used to be able to communicate well....but now...he is building sensitivity towards..what I say, how i say it...and all ...but at the same time he is providing for us...yet..he has me in a cage....sort of...he is providing for me but i am emotionally and internally torn by his actions...