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UmmTaaha
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Posted: 28 March 2007 at 11:37pm |
I am a woman who writes and reads, who was educated to compete and be successful - academically, financially and politically - in the world. And I am also a woman who has chosen to have children and look after those children, not pass them on to a full-time nanny or institution but be the one who's elected herself to open up the homework bag, arrange for the little friends to come to tea. To kiss the bruised knee at the moment when the knee is bruised - this has been my choice. |
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Alwardah
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As Salamu Alaikum Jazakallahu Khairan for sharing this with us. Very Inspirational. Salams |
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Lameese
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I would love to be able to just stay home with my 2 small children and be just mama. I would leave my professional job in a heart beat and never look back and never regret it, in just one heart beat. I envy women who just get to be mama. Unfortunately, I do not even get the choice. I support my whole family with my job. Everything comes from my job, the insurance, food, bills....everything. My mother recently asked me if I would give up my whole education, studying abroad and my career just to stay home with my kids. I said in one heart beat. My sister watches my children so I can support my family. I would soooo give all of it up just to be mama. Lameese Edited by Lameese |
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hakeema
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As-Salaam Alaikum, To All working mothers and Lameese, How does working outside of the home stop you from being a mother? I am just curious to know. Hakeema Edited by hakeema |
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Lameese
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It does not stop me from being a mother. It stops me from getting to do the majority of raising my children. I get to see them for 3 hours a night before they go to bed and am gone before they get out of bed. I work 12 hour shifts. So, again, I would give up my career just to be mom 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Lameese |
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hakeema
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As-Salaam Alaikum Thanks for replying. Is there anyway you can cut back on your work hours, then that way you can spend more time with your children. It won't be 24/7. But, at least you get to spend more time with them. Ask Allah to help you manifest that. I am not a mother, yet. But I do remember being a child. Yes, my mother worked outside the home but she made time for me. That is what I remember most. That is why I ask the question I asked. I am also a daycare baby. I loved daycare more than going home because at home I had to do homework, do house chores, and no television through the week. Of course, I didn't like at all. At daycare I played all day and ate cookies. Hakeema
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Sadija
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Salaam Wonderful posts. I am also a full time mother with 1 baby. I had him for 7 months with me at work (it was very very hard) I neglected my work so much that I had to put him in a daycare otherwise I would have been fired by now. Now its more relaxing for me but I wish myself i could be at home with my baby. My work also supports my family. And without my income it will be very hard.
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Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing , you will be successfull
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Lameese
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No, there is no way for me to cut back. I do not just help with the bills, I support my whole family, no one else, just me. My husband works 2 days a week and earns enough to pay for his car payments and goes to school full time. I am the ONLY one that carries this family and I have to work full time to make enough to pay all the bills and groceries, everything, I have to work full time too for the full time insurance. I just had to have surgery and if I did not have full time insurance I would have to pay for about 50% - 60% of it. So, right now I do not get a choice about anything. But when my husband graduates and starts his profession I will be able to go part time or a day a week, but this will not be for another 5 years. Lameese |
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