what do men really want

Peace,

Well that depends on what kind of a man he is.If he is a believer and is looking for a partner,he would obviously look for a believeing woman.Race,culture,wealth etc etc becomes secondary.And most importantly GOD commands us to marry believing  ppl.This would give us peace and happiness in our married life.Now coming back to your situation,i would say that there is no need for you to be in an argument with your ex.If you are remarried,this might upset your current husband.If you have a child with your ex,the contact should only be for the sake of him being able to meet his child or sending money or whatever according to the agreement reached between the both of you during the divorce.I dont understand whats the need for someone to discuss the reasons for divorce after it has already happened and both of the parties are already married again.