what do men really want

well said candid. but in some cases u get too much interference from well meaing relatives. even if a problem was bound to get resolved, intervention by 3rd parties complicates issues and this leads to divorce ultimately

the couple themselves could be helpless victims who are caught in the middle of this whirlwind. then theres outside pressure to act in a certain way

if in anger u tell all ur friends and family that u are leaving n next thing u guys have made up...u get all these funny looks...n next time theres aproblem , they dont wanna listen cos they think u playing games

ive heard of cases where parents have threatned to disown their married daughters if the daughter were to go back to her hubby,cos the parents disapprove n they are rich. thus they think that wealth gives them the right to have control over their daughter, who by the way, happens to be married.

Life is all about balance.  Don't forsake your mother and forget about her but you should realize that when you get married that you must also pay attention to your husbands wants and needs which could confilct with your mother's. 

If your mother was understanding she would realize that she's raised you and you have your own life to lead.