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    Posted: 12 December 2006 at 11:35am

 

Salaam Mona

If some jacko whacko said that to me I'd say something along the lines of " Thank God, there is no real Christanity."

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Assalamu'Alaikum Dear Sisters &Sister mona45,

I wanted to respond to the comment that was made to you about not being strong in the christian faith before you converted.....

I've been a muslimah for 18 almost 19 years and I've heard my share of less than friendly comments as well and this is exactly what I say maybe it'll work for you just remember to use a soft, calm, sweet tone when you say it and smile and be genuine and you'll leave the person baffeled beyond belief it really works here goes:

"Alhamdulillah, how wise you are to know that Allah makes us all muslims in our mothers womb and it is our parents that pick and choose our faith for whatever intentions and upbringing they've had....I'm so happy you understand that...Mash'Allah...peace and blessings to you and Alhamdulillah, that Allah opened my heart and guided me back to the one true belief in "One God"....(recite shahada)...May you be as blessed as I have.......Thank You for sharing your opinions with me today...(smile)

and walk away with their jaws dropped....knowing that you've given your dawah for today......

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Originally posted by Hayfa Hayfa wrote:

Well smile sweetly and change the subject..

People can be so busy-body!  Honestly some of these things are labels.. it is what your beliefs in your heart and mind. No one else can say what you are or are not.

 Thank you. You are exactly correct. I knew that when they said that to me,that they were doing their best to try to insult me. To try to put me on the defensive. Instead of trying to satisfy them,I,in the end,did what you said I should do.(The exchange happened in a letter,so I thankfully had time to either respond,or to ignore and move onto another subject.) Thank you sister.
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Well smile sweetly and change the subject..

People can be so busy-body!  Honestly some of these things are labels.. it is what your beliefs in your heart and mind. No one else can say what you are or are not.

When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. Rumi
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Salaam sister's! I reverted to Islam about 5 year's ago.I hope this is the correct place to ask this question.(For some reason,I am not able to post in other forum's here) I was Christian before I reverted. I recently have had Christian's say to me,that I must not have "really" been a Christian since I have since reverted to Islam. What should I say to this,if anything? How should I answer this? Thank you-Mona
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Assalamu'Alaikum Sisters,

Mash'Allah another great topic......

I would have to say from a parents perspective that if you don't have patients and good manners your children won't either and that is why it is so important to reach a level of good manners and curtisies before we reach the point of being in a position of shaping and molding young minds.....

I do have great patients that are constantly tested as all parents are. Alhamdulillah, it brings me great peace, direction, and pride to be able to set a good example for my children each day even if it's a struggle....

The one time in my life that peace brought me the greatest pleasure was while I was laboring to deliver all 4 of the boys. I would breath slowly and picture in front of me the best I could what Jannah might look like and a small area where I could sit by the water and feel the breeze and smell all of the sweet smells and relax and be flooded with happiness....

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Assalamualaikim sisters,

I agree that we are faced with so much challenges almost every day. As what Sister Hayfa has written, I, too fail most of the time but I try to pick myself up and learn from the mistake.Only Allah knows why I have done what I did instead of what should rightfully be done.I am faced with voices that question my integrity as a Muslim which I am still striving harder to become a better one. The challenges, even the slightest can sometimes put me into a debate with myself, my beliefs and in being a better Muslim. Anger, jealousy, selfishness sometimes tend to overwhelm me and cloud my better judgement.

What I am trying to say is that I feel so relieved that there are also people who are going through the same thing as I am, and that there is a post for us to share our thoughts and emotions.It feels good to just read the words of comfort from all of you. :)

 
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How much backbiting, negative competition, judgements do we all face each day?

You know sister, I read an article in JUMMAH magazine that said we experience over I believe the number was 20,ooo assualts on our self-esteem everyday. No wonder so many people need zoloft to just wake up.

 

How often people get caught up on what happened before.. we can replay a slight a hurt? How often do you hear people talk about these people did bad to my people and you find our it was 120  or even 500 years ago.

so true

To me it is a night snowfall, my sleeping cat, the smell of a wet fall day, it is the Andes mountains, or the kids I teach laughing having a good time.

Ma'sha'Allah  I love hearing my Muslim sister's talk like this.

Often we think it is terrible to have pain and suffering. And the thing is can we embrace it? That suffering is life.

I often wonder, where did this attitude that you don't have to struggle or suffer come from? I'm trying to figure it out? Have we been sold on McDondals, I-Pods, and vibrators as a society that we don't expect struggle or hard work? Is it any wonder why people divorce? Is it any wonder why parents have severely disturbed children with all types of conduct disorders?

Tawwasuf, deals with this by telling people " hey look crush your ego instead of blow it up." May Allah help me to do this. But what I've found is that if you pay attention to your own thoughts you see your ego in a way you didn't notice before. If you experience injustice, hardship, pain, or anything else who ever said you have to feel or be: 

angry, hateful, frusterated

depressed discouraged disappointed

jealous, envious, vengeful

The devil didn't make you do it, we choose to listen and than we choose to follow those whispers.Allot of our inner jihad is talking back to the voices, standing up to them and fighting to not become undone.

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