Auzubillahi minahs shaitan ir Rajeem,
Bismillah ir rahman ir rahim,
I want to make this last attempt to communicate the reasons for the amendments in the rules.
This will also be my last post on this thread, because if I am unable to communicate myself this time, nothing said, can help - and we will have to live in disagreement on the issue.
I am not here to break hearts, judge ppl for how they treat me, or mix my anger for one to take it out on another. When I explained rationally you persisted in not paying any heed to the need, and when I spoke with exasperation, you see it as a threat. I am not the only one who shld care about you, you should also return the care with care. This is how we function in a society. Mine was not a threat to scare you away, it is to make you reflect you are being impossible, and this is not fair to me, because I am not impossible with you. I have extended a hand of friendship to most of you.
We need these rules, and we need your cooperation to implement these. If no one is ready to co operate, the whole place can crumble down and we will be going home.
Why do we need them?.... I noticed some ppl have not followed them when they were not in a written format.
If the nonmuslims are here, and they have found room for themselves on this forum, they shld be proud of themselves, they know how to respect and earn respect within Muslims.
If someone feels unwelcome, because Islamic adab is maintained and expected from the members, then that person is insincere from the very start. If you do not want us to maintain our decorum, it is very sad. If you do not want us to make it clear that we strive to maintain this decorum, it is still very sad.
Secondly, this decorum is foiled on occasions by non-muslims as well as muslims, so the rules are for both, and not just the non-muslims alone.
We are very different from the west ... what ppl may think is okay, is sometimes not okay here.
People may think they have cracked a casual joke, but can I ask you if that joke was okay for you to crack in front of your mother? I dont know if I can ask you and make you realise it was out of line here, because sadly among muslims, the muslim standards have deteriorated.
We are not a sight of fiqh. We are not qualified scholars or medical doctors here. If there are explicit questions pertaining these matters, your sincerity in seeking the answer will be better served if you take them to an appropriate website. If ppl under 13 are not allowed, still ppl at 13, 14, 15, and 16 are very young. I dont want their purity to be marred by some information lying here carelessly, and unattended. We are Muslims, and we consider our children as a trust from Allah.
Graphic material can make some people sick. I felt sick reading one of the posts here, and what i thought was there could be many who are not strong, just like myself, or may be they are weaker than me. There are many ppl in our society who are patients of clinical depression, plus there are immature minds of children to whom we are making the information freely available. Should we not be caring for them in our writings and sharing of material?
I hope I have explained myself rationally, and with no attempt of breaking hearts.
Maa salaama,
Nausheen
Edited by Nausheen