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    Posted: 15 August 2006 at 9:37pm
Originally posted by najamsahar najamsahar wrote:

When the Prophet PBUH was asked about the plight of family of a man that could not survive after his death, He PBUH replied "they come to us" meaning the islamic community/state. This is Tirmidhi and Bukhari

 

This is good.

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Originally posted by najamsahar najamsahar wrote:

The man who wants to work but cannot find a job, he starts his own business (he can borrow money if does not have any) and employs other people.

But then if men and women are allowed to work in this system, how come this man has this family to support. If they live in dire times, and he is not able to provide for all, the women start to work too. The above scenario is paradoxical.

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The woman though workling is not required to spend on her family like the husband is.

 

I do agree that the man becoming self employed is a good idea.



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Dear Suzanne

We are imagining an ideal situation here in this topic with the assumption that each and every man is extremely diligent about the responsiblity he has towards his family.

We all know that in these times, some men are far from responsible. Secondly, even if the men are responsible, life conditions are so hard that women are working to get some kind of financial cushion.

Islam has never prohibited women to work. The only situation that I can imagine it being Haram is when her husband has forbidden her to work. If her husband is okay with her working, no problems at all.

In the scenario you present, if the lady does not work, how else will she support herself?

InshaAllah she will get married and if her husband is okay with it, she can work regardless of whether she has children or no. However it is her right that she can ask her husband to be the sole provider.

Better these issues are cleared up before the marriage takes place.

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Salem,

What if a divorced woman has to work because there are many bills from her 1st marriage that the Ex Husband will not pay and she needs a means to support herself, Is this haaram? Perhaps she gets married again, Is is okay for her to work until there are children?

Surah 3 Ayat 186
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When the Prophet PBUH was asked about the plight of family of a man that could not survive after his death, He PBUH replied "they come to us" meaning the islamic community/state. This is Tirmidhi and Bukhari

 

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The man who wants to work but cannot find a job, he starts his own business (he can borrow money if does not have any) and employs other people.

But then if men and women are allowed to work in this system, how come this man has this family to support. If they live in dire times, and he is not able to provide for all, the women start to work too. The above scenario is paradoxical.

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What if both men and women are allowed to work and can hold any job they can get hired into, providing they are honest, moral ect?  This will allow the women to live up to their full potential and------

For the married men who must support a family, or sister, or female relative, why not let the government provide a job for him if one cannot be found in the private sector?

 



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Originally posted by najamsahar najamsahar wrote:

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Q 3) when we assume that a man should be given preference over a woman as he is the breadwinner, in this scene are the two candidates, one man and the second woman,  equally  qualified? Or if the man has a little bit lacking he is still given preference because his responsibilty comes into the reckoning?

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I would say that for jobs that you had to go in knowing right off what you had to do (like a doctor) then qualifactions should count.

there are many positions where you can get trained for the job in a few days after being hired.  I am not so sure about them

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