Private messages to women

I think fatima's and herjihad's responses are good but I also think women especially of foreign nationalities need to know that not ALL men (or women) are going to know that some names are female names (or male) in such and such languages I believe these women need to take that into account beforehand.

While I have to disagree with you Angela about Israfil, I do agree with you below.

Angela wrote: what I am defending is the fact that you called it ridiculous that some women find it uncomfortable to talk to men in PMs.  Its not ridiculous, its a woman's perogative as to her comfort level. Its not ridiculous, its her choice.  Many of the Muslimah's here were born Muslim and have been raised with a certain level of comfort, but not with non Mehram men.  Private places are all around, even in cyberspace.

 

Why, because if you can't say it in public, then you probably shouldn't be saying it in private!

I slightly disagree with this, some things are not for the public or for the whole world to hear. Some times some things are private not to be talked about to the whole world. Just as when private things are not for the whole world to know about. {of course this excluded assaults of any kind that need to be known to others} so please don't jump down on me for that :(

I don't follow two belief systems.  I follow one.  I can't help it if two have commonalities I can share with others.

I believe the first emails I got from you were to the public email that I have since removed from my profile.  Giving you my other one was a big mistake.  Which is exactly why women should be guarded about talking to people over the internet.  There is absolutely no way to know what the other person is really like until its too late.  And some men use "sincere" questions just to get women to trust them.

Secondly, I talk to alot of people, what I am defending is the fact that you called it ridiculous that some women find it uncomfortable to talk to men in PMs.  Its not ridiculous, its a woman's perogative as to her comfort level.

Israfil wrote: No offense to any woman here but I think it is a bit ridiculous for any woman to be offended or feel uncomfortable with a private message, especially if the message is out of sincerity. I have had a woman say that to me and I was like "WHAT?" I just think, in humble but imperfect opinion that its just plain ole ridiculous. I understand perhaps in person and in an intimate setting yes but I think PM's especially on the internet and being ashamed or what not or feeling entrapped is ridiculous. Unlike like life, you can simply delete the PM or choose to read it.

Its not ridiculous, its her choice.  Many of the Muslimah's here were born Muslim and have been raised with a certain level of comfort, but not with non Mehram men.  Private places are all around, even in cyberspace.

I've been to Islamic rooms where you have to enter your gender and private messaging is not allowed between anyone except the moderators.  Why, because if you can't say it in public, then you probably shouldn't be saying it in private!

I haven't adopted two religions.  And discussing an issue?  Really please, the issue was being discussed here, you were more like chastising a child when you took it to email.  Oh well, men like you never learn.