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   Asalamoalaikom, 
Looks like i am posting this with a very sad mood right now. I am 27 years old nearly married for just 3+ months Ahamdulillah. Today I had a discussion with my parents to move out with my wife. 
We never had any probem being with in my parents house.Every thing has been normal and we had our best time. I had a discussion with my wife before we got married that we will move out after few years, because my parents house is big enough for 3 families. 
After i discussed with my dad we got really really upset. I am feeling gulity as hell. 
Whats wrong with this culture? I only want to give all the rights my wife wants to have. Her own place to live. (we bought a house together right after our nikkah, so buying house part is already done). 

I think the decision i made will impact everyone in my house and thats even making me more guilt. 

What have i done :( why why why. 
Anyone with similar situastions?

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MROslo Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Male Islam Joined: 03 February 2021 Location: Oslo Status: Offline Points: 2	Post Options Post Reply Quote MROslo Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: Parents Posted: 03 February 2021 at 7:58am
	Asalamoalaikom, Looks like i am posting this with a very sad mood right now. I am 27 years old nearly married for just 3+ months Ahamdulillah. Today I had a discussion with my parents to move out with my wife. We never had any probem being with in my parents house.Every thing has been normal and we had our best time. I had a discussion with my wife before we got married that we will move out after few years, because my parents house is big enough for 3 families. After i discussed with my dad we got really really upset. I am feeling gulity as hell. Whats wrong with this culture? I only want to give all the rights my wife wants to have. Her own place to live. (we bought a house together right after our nikkah, so buying house part is already done). I think the decision i made will impact everyone in my house and thats even making me more guilt. What have i done :( why why why. Anyone with similar situastions?

Komatzu1991 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Male Islam Joined: 06 February 2021 Location: Turkey Status: Offline Points: 1	Post Options Post Reply Quote Komatzu1991 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 06 February 2021 at 2:15pm
	W.Salam brother. I am saddened by your post. Unfortunately, many south Asian cultures dont let us practise our religion as it is. Verily you are obliged to provide your wife privacy. Lack of privacy can cause a lot of frustration and destroy the relationship. I was in a same situation many years ago. My wife is Alhamdulillah a very cooperative women, but staying with our parents made her angry, frustrated and depressed. How is your wife handling the situation? If you are not able to move out at this time, then try to explain the situation to her. Dont think that she will understand it without telling her all the details abt your situation.