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   My mother in law constantly criticize the way I raise my child. Always have negative comments to point out.
Even when my son is healthy but has rashes and birth marks she complains and question.
She doesn’t trust my parenting decision and skills.
Constantly expect too much from my husband without taking note of what we are going through as young couple and parents. 
She keeps telling my husband syurga is under her and that he should care of him family.
At the expense of his wife and child.
I don’t know what to do. 
I feel really sad about this.
I work. 
I care for my child.
My husband is never around and constantly travel.
I do everything on my own. 
They never care to offer a hand to help or even bother.
Yet have so much to comment.
Even when I decide not to bring my child out cause it’s flu season, they disapprove.
everything has to be her way.
I can’t even make a decision on what I want as parent. 
She never take care of my daughter too. Yet constantly criticize my parenting skills and say idk my own child.

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AMWM Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Muslim Joined: 27 January 2020 Location: Malaysia Status: Offline Points: 2	Post Options Post Reply Quote AMWM Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: MIL Posted: 28 January 2020 at 1:06am
	My mother in law constantly criticize the way I raise my child. Always have negative comments to point out. Even when my son is healthy but has rashes and birth marks she complains and question. She doesn’t trust my parenting decision and skills. Constantly expect too much from my husband without taking note of what we are going through as young couple and parents. She keeps telling my husband syurga is under her and that he should care of him family. At the expense of his wife and child. I don’t know what to do. I feel really sad about this. I work. I care for my child. My husband is never around and constantly travel. I do everything on my own. They never care to offer a hand to help or even bother. Yet have so much to comment. Even when I decide not to bring my child out cause it’s flu season, they disapprove. everything has to be her way. I can’t even make a decision on what I want as parent. She never take care of my daughter too. Yet constantly criticize my parenting skills and say idk my own child.

Dr. Aslam Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Admin Group Male Islam Joined: 24 February 2018 Location: California, USA Status: Offline Points: 279	Post Options Post Reply Quote Dr. Aslam Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 29 January 2020 at 3:17pm
	Wa alaikum, Not unusual in traditional Muslim societies. Your genius is to resolve it in a non confrontational manner. She also needs to be educated but never tell her that she does not know. Make sure that you win her confidence in doing things that are right. You wil have to take your husband into confidence. In traditional societies, issues are to be tackled in a delicate manner and changes have to be brought very carefully.. Give her some books on parenting or play some vidoes on how Islam wants children to be raised. AA
	Best Regards, Aslam Abdullah