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    Posted: 15 June 2018 at 5:55am
I am a 20 year old male student.i have been masturbating for the last 8 years..i have tried to stop myself but eventually i give in to the lust..this bad habit has affected my life adversely..Before i started this habit,i was an excellent student with a great photographic memory.over the years my mental capabilities have reduced to a dangerous degree..i can't focus and concentrate on anything for a longer period..i can't study properly.i have like zero social skills..i am experiencing hairloss also and my eyesight has also become really weak.
When i am try to stop myself from masturbating,i have like this period of severe urge where i can't think of anything except masturbating and porn..this urge grows stronger with each day and eventually leads to this sin.
When i try to ask Allah for forgiveness,i can't even shed a single tear.my prayers have become empty.i think Allah has given up on me..
i recently masturbated during a fast in Ramadhan and i am overcome by this severe guilt..i knew that it was wrong but still i couldn't stop myself.. 
Guys please is there any way to stop myself from this bad habit and to reverse the harmful effects??please i need help..i would really appreciate it. 
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It happens. It happens even to the most pious people. Please try to engage in work that keeps you busy and does not give you enough solitary time. Tire yourself through physical exercise and keep on asking Allah with or without tears to forgive you.
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I will try..but literally everytime i go back to this sin..i can't concentrate on my studies..even if i doing something to keep myself busy,the lust eventually takes over.can you give me some examples of what i should do to keep the lust at bay?
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Consult a doctor and try to control as much as you can. You are the only one who can control it.
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Have you tried fasting? Have you considered marriage? Concentrate on ridding yourself of porn, and don't worry about masturbation. Don't be consumed by guilt. Do your level best and engage in increasing your knowledge of religion.
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Pardon my posting in an Islamic forum, but this is just one of many ways one can be ruled by their desires. The worldly pattern of degeneracy is so profound it is obvious even without considering religion.

Imo one cannot reduce/stop this pattern without help from God. Substituting prayer will work, but see the problem not as eliminating sexual pleasure but instead pray for self-mastery over your natural human desires. You will not be as despondent when you fail, and you will gain heart when you succeed. The balance will shift over time.
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HELP.

A question perhaps that needs to be answered.

I'm a young lad who have utter faith in Allah and our Prophet. My emaan is pure but i have one regret, sexual lust. At my age (20-25), it is normal to be too sexaully aroused. but at times, i get way too angry due to the stress i deal with. 

WHAT DO I DO? 

I'm told to get married but i have seen a lot of couples getting married and soon getting divorced/ or leaving their parents in old houses. I cant to do that. I cant sponsor a wedding nor can i sacrifce my parents for another women (which is pretty much the case nwoadays)


I cant get married anytime sooner, what should i do?  how do i control my lust? i know fasting is one but i just cant.
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I doubt you would find anyone who does not have arousal unless medically unfit. Many people fantasize and may people masturbate.  I can explain to you the way I controlled my feelings. I focused on reading and i joined sports and I ensured that I am not alone as much as I can/
Still then there were moments when i had difficulty in controlling myself. Prayers do help to shift focus. Ultimately, it is you and you alone that can control oneself.
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