I need some advice

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   Asalamu Alaikum
Well everything went very well. I am engaged now. Hamdillah he is a very good person and I am very happy. Thanks again for all your help

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ahlam Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 07 March 2006 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 21	Post Options Post Reply Quote ahlam Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: I need some advice Posted: 13 June 2006 at 9:04am
	Asalamu Alaikum Well everything went very well. I am engaged now. Hamdillah he is a very good person and I am very happy. Thanks again for all your help

ahlam Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 07 March 2006 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 21	Post Options Post Reply Quote ahlam Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 31 May 2006 at 8:25pm
	Actually, I have given it quite a lot of thought. I have been thinking about this for almost 4 months. Inshallah Allah swt will guide me to the right path~

herjihad Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 26 January 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 2473	Post Options Post Reply Quote herjihad Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 29 May 2006 at 11:08pm
	*Bismillah,* *I don't see why you have to make a final decision so quickly. People want you to make a decision, but you have the right to say: No, Yes or maybe later after I talk to you more.* Look at Sister Umzibba's post of: Questions to ask a possible spouse. Add any questions that you feel are important, and take off the ones that you have the answer for or are irrelevant to your situation. *Peace*
	Al-Hamdulillah (From a Married Muslimah) La Howla Wa La Quwata Illa BiLLah - There is no Effort or Power except with Allah's Will.

ahlam Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 07 March 2006 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 21	Post Options Post Reply Quote ahlam Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 28 May 2006 at 5:08pm
	Asalamu Alaikum I talked to him on the phone and it went very well. He is supposed to come here on Thursday, and I will make my final decsion then. What kind of questions should I ask him? Thank you all for your help again, it really helped out a lot~

amah Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Moderator Group Female Joined: 18 March 2006 Status: Offline Points: 1334	Post Options Post Reply Quote amah Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 12 May 2006 at 7:48pm
	First of all, try not to worry....... and don't get under pressure due to grandparents, it is the question of your life! Keep doing dhikr to calm your heart....and pray lots and make lots of dua....just meet him first before jumping to conclusions....if you like him, do istikhara and say yes.....and if you don't like him, you know what to do... Everything will be ok Insha Allah sis! Allah does what is best for you..
	Allah is Sufficient as a Walee (Protector) and Allah is Sufficient as a Naseer (Helper). (Surah An-Nisa, Chapter #4, Verse #45)

ahlam Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 07 March 2006 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 21	Post Options Post Reply Quote ahlam Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 12 May 2006 at 1:08pm
	Asalamu Alaikum, But how can I make a decision without sitting with him? And if I do sit with him I am afraid that I will have to say yes especially because my grandparents who came from Palestine are here and they raised him so they want me to say yes. I think my biggest worries about the whole thing is he might be hard-headed, communication, compatibility, if I will be happy and if there is someone better out there.

herjihad Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 26 January 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 2473	Post Options Post Reply Quote herjihad Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 10 May 2006 at 6:43am
	Bismillah, The salient, relevant, point that I see in this quote you posted is that dreams are not legislation. In other words, we are free to disregard them if we wish. But dreams can reveal our own deeply felt feelings to us when we aren't willing to acknowledge them even to ourselves. And if they are really awful and scary, they could just be the working of shaytan and we should follow the advice as you posted of spitting saliva free and not speaking of it to those around us. (Seeking advice about it is different, especially for you, hon!) Weigh the pros and cons of getting married. List them and ask the sheikh's advice again. Because I see that you were asking marriage advice, but he saw that you were asking about the validity of your dream. Put the question differently to get the help you need, Sister. Peace. Edited by herjihad
	Al-Hamdulillah (From a Married Muslimah) La Howla Wa La Quwata Illa BiLLah - There is no Effort or Power except with Allah's Will.

ahlam Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 07 March 2006 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 21	Post Options Post Reply Quote ahlam Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 09 May 2006 at 4:19pm
	I forgot to mention, that I recently had another dream. This time I was in New York my mom, and aunts were there. I wanted to go in a Hindi jewelry store but the lady who owned it said that I was too young. My mom said that I was engaged to my cousin. My aunt said I am not young because I am 18 but my aunt took a ring off my finger, I am not sure if it was the married or engaged side, but she took the ring and put it on her finger. It was kind of weird. Maybe it's just a weird dream and doesn't mean anything.~