Sharia

As-Salaam Alaikum sister,

No this is not Islam.  I read your post in the General Discussion area. All men are not bad.  I am sure your husband is a good brother, there are some good brothers on this forum(such as Israfil, and Rami), and by you teaching your Son about the value of women he will grow up to respect women and their rights.  I get really angry when I hear women being disrespect period, but especially within the Islam ummah.  My heart hurts.  But what really hurts is when some women allow it to happen.  For example,  I remember watching a television show about prositution and it was interesting to see the people who run some of the brothels houses are women.  Another example I was reading in Essence Magazine about how some women don't like the disrespect of women being shown in rap videos.  When essence magazine interviewed women who worked in the rap videos they loved doing what they do.  Women who work in pornography industry some of them love what they do.  I am going back to school to go higher up in the medical field(inshallah a doctor). I was happy when some sister supported me in my decision, but I was really surprised when sisters asked me why do I need to go school and get an education.  I don't need to work outside of the home my work is within the home, this is islam stay in your homes it is better for you.  Your husband is going to take care of you financially, and blah,blah, and blah.  I usually would expect that kind of talk from the brothers but wow. I feel it is up to the woman to work outside the home if she wants too.  If she feel she has a gift to help make the work better in a halal manner than all praises is due to Allah.  I believe my gift is to help heal people.  I bet you there are some women who support this so-called shariah, and if they do they deserve to be b-slapped.  We need to as an Islamic ummah to come with a plan to stop this, but I don't know how.

hakeema

 

Bismillah,

Jenni, I feel I need to say something because I might become to busy to post later.  I haven't read the article on the front page, but I accept your summary of it as true. 

Women need to have a back-up plan, absolutely.  Some women are really taken care of by their Muslim husbands, and may Allah, SWT, bless and increase these brothers. 

The psychology of why women in these situations run brothels or say they like doing porn videos goes very deep into their lives.  I feel that I cannot put myself in their situations, their upbringing, their previous lifestyles, so I can't say that anyone wouldn't be doing what they are doing if they were subjected to lives they had.  They could have been childhood prostitutes and know nothing different for themselves.

That's why I take this chance to agree with Jenni that we need to encourage our girls to be able to support themselves as well as to say that we need to support women's ability to change themselves from really bad situations into better ones. 

Anyone in such a bad situation: Stop prostituting, and come into the light of Allah, SWT's, love for you and we will care for you as much as we can.  Open your hearts to Islaam and Allah's Mercy, and live better lives.  We will accept you because your evil situation is not of your making.  Even if at some point you could have left but didn't know where to go, you can leave now.  Just stop, so that you can start again.

When I worked at the DV shelter, we saw it again and again. In a society that supposedly has given women empowerment.  Women who constantly return to their abusers or find new abusers and think somehow, this one will be different. 

I'm all for the traditional family.  But, its so hard to express to a woman that she is equal and valued without being called a feminist by some and explain its okay to seek a traditional role in the home without being told you support the evil patriarchy that has subjugated women for thousands of years.

Women are under attack from all sides. 

Radical feminists would see us all with butch hair cuts and taking over the corporate world, leaving baby making to the weaker women....destroying the family.

Male Chauvanists would strip us of our basic humanity and make us slaves and cattle.  Telling us we have no value but for breeding and keeping house.

Both sides are wrong.  Women must be strong, educated and hardworking.  With us lies the next generation and with us goes the family.  A woman of faith and integrity can do more good through her works than either model we are being forced into by others.

It starts with our daughters, its starts with us.

 

My son will do his own laundry when he is 12. He will learn to cook, clean, pay bills and how to treat a woman. And when he gets married he better hope he never is rude to his wife in front of me or my husband. He would really get it from us. I will never give him more respect than my daughter or make him feel he is more important because he is a boy. Even though I love and adore him, my job is to turn him into a faithful good man. Not a spioled big mamas boy which is what so many women do. Ladies, raise your sons to be fathers and husbands, leaders in the community. Not egotistical A##holes which is what so many women do. Learn to tell them no. And please, encourage your daughters to marry the kindest man, not the most handsome or the most succsesful. Kindess takes you much further in a marraige than anything!! Peace