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Originally posted by ProudSlave ProudSlave wrote:

AA I am brand new here and have not been Muslim for very long. The only reason I am responding to you is because I am a Muslim who IS married to Buddhist woman, so I have a little insight into this type of situation.

Both my marriage to her and the birth of our 4yr old daughter took place before my conversion. This makes me feel like I have no right to expect changes to her faith nor impose mine on the child who we share. My daughter does enjoy performing Salah with me, but I do not try to stop my wife from feeding her Haram food because she was doing so long before I converted. In a weird way, I have to acknowledge the fact my commitment to this family predates my commitment to Allah. I have no doubt my daughter will find her way, she would follow me off a cliff and tries to be as much like me as possible. Unfortunately, I also believe my wife never will. This causes me great sadness because while I am quite capable of protecting her physically (specially trained in "Dignitary Protection"), I feel incapable of protecting her spiritually and have had to accept the literal meaning of "til death do us part"

I will never say I regret marrying my wife. Not only do I love her madly, but our union brought me the wonderful blessing that my daughter is. However, if I had to give a brother advice, it would be - If you truly know you will be a Muslim for your whole life, seek a mate who shares your commitment to Islam before unbreakable bonds are formed and lifelong commitments are made, as it will most likely result in a more harmonious marriage.


Asalaamu Alaykum

Bro you are the head of your household and as such you have a duty to bring your child up as a Muslim. It doesn't matter what you were before or if your wife does not support you in this. It is your responsibility to care for and look after your wife and your child in equal measures but do not shy away from your responsibilities to your daughter. Teach her about Islam and In Shaa Allah from a young age she will embrace it and be a good Muslimah for life.

Salaam
La Ilaha IllAllah
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote ProudSlave Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 03 February 2015 at 8:33am
Originally posted by Abu Loren Abu Loren wrote:


Asalaamu Alaykum Bro you are the head of your household and as such you have a duty to bring your child up as a Muslim. It doesn't matter what you were before or if your wife does not support you in this. It is your responsibility to care for and look after your wife and your child in equal measures but do not shy away from your responsibilities to your daughter. Teach her about Islam and In Shaa Allah from a young age she will embrace it and be a good Muslimah for life.Salaam


You are 100% correct!

My daughter and I have long conversations about what Allah has done for us. She understands a lot, for her age. I am not neglecting my duty. I am however taking a slow approach (she's four). Too much rigidity, at this point, has the potential to get me further from the goal than closer. Pulling rank and laying down the law would be met with huge resistance, not by my daughter, but rather many family members. It could even result in divorce and me becoming a smaller influence in her life. Trust me, I'm "taking care of business" I'm just using a delicate and diplomatic approach.

IBAHA411 -

I'll definitely shoot ya an email.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote lady Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 03 February 2015 at 8:10pm
Your interest on whom to marry is a reflection of your deen. You won't understand love until after marriage. Just be patient brother. I did give u instructive advise. I told u what u needed to hear and not what u wanted to hear.
Allah (SWT) has made it clear to us who we can marry. So if u don't listen to HiM then who are u listening to?


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Brother ProudSlave,

I would be so happy, please write me in your free time.

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Hi! Ibaha

I am curious what happen after all...
It’s been 4yrs already. Did you marry her or not? πŸ™‚
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote asep garutea Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 12 August 2019 at 6:26pm
Originally posted by ibaha411 ibaha411 wrote:

Brother ProudSlave,



I would be so happy, please write me in your free time.



Regards,

Ismail

Assalamu alaykum Ismail Baha, sorry I just found out what you wrote in this forum. Hopefully my advice is not too late.
I just want to convey the words of Allah Azza Wa Jalla in Surah Al Baqarah verse 221.
Please contemplate that verse.

Regards,
asep garutea

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