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mami
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Posted: 06 April 2015 at 10:48am |
assalammualaikum
You have no problem. The guy is a piece of gabbage. Be glad he is OUT of your life. From now on be VERRY HAPPY that you dont live with an I D iot. Celebrate being a true woman with value, class, respect. Dont accept just any man but a man with good character. Please no more whinning. |
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Abu Loren
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Alaykum Asalaam Yes it does look like that your husband doesn't need you anymore as he is blinded by his love/lust for this new woman. In that respect a divorce would be the best course of action. There are strict rules on divorce in Sharia Law, for example there are waiting periods after a divorce and the husband is still expected to provide for his wife until then. I would advise you to seek help from an Imam. |
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La Ilaha IllAllah
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aminahV17
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As Salaam Alaykum: It's with great sadness that I report that my husband and I have not been able to work out our differences on him marrying another woman, therefore, we are parting ways. He told me that he's going to marry her soon and that he is not divorcing me. I'm moving out this Friday at his insistence and I'm just beside myself as I want to do the right thing islamically.
He insists that I move out on April 3, 2015 so he can marry the other woman. I told him I would, but don't be mean to me in the process. We can be civil toward one another through this difficult time. He sends texts to my phone saying he hopes I move out by April 3rd so he can be with his other woman.
I'm hurt, but I don't want who don't want me, furthermore, he still does not take care of me. He now have a part-time job and told me that he's doing what Allah has allowed him to do.
What I want to know is, how long do I have to stay married to him before I ask for a divorce, islamically? Please advise. Salaam Alaykum
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Nausheen
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Three divorces ARE valid, given in heat of the moment, or under the effect of intoxication or otherwise.
Allah hates divorce, and it is not a thing to be treated lightly. Maulana Tariq Jameel is invalid. |
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mami
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I hate men who has no control over his life, what a person he wants to be, his lack of knowledge in religion, his uncertainty, his action first and think later attitude, his no sincere of love and care, his selfishness, his brain works according to his own convenience. My advice: it is up to the woman who face what and if she can be happy with him or without him.
I admire a man who do not thinks about himself, but what his wife's needs, and what makes her comfort and happy and respectful, would comeback to him. He acts according to Islamic teaching, of patience and loving, as exampled by the Prophet SAW. He provides, he teach, and not being silly. But my understanding of these, is too late, so i hope other women would marry right and not wrong. Edited by mami - 10 March 2015 at 8:53am |
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Aighar
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@abuali
is that what sunnah people are practicing..u know im so confused of hadiths..this "husband" asked me are you following TariqJameel (i thought following Quran is the main thing in Islam) anyway from my point of "view" this husband is not good he always belittle me and he even wondered why he married me in the first place. He dont care how i felt and always hurt me with his words. he dont support me financially because he don't have job and yet he married the second wife out of parent's request... please enlighten me.. Edited by Aighar - 09 November 2014 at 10:17pm |
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abuali
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No your divorce is not valid because at least 2 witness are also needed and there must be gap of three months and if after three months later he again give you divorce so the divorce is valid otherwise not. Let me share you a video link that clearly said that saying 3 times divorce quickly will not case of divorce until there is period of three months. http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x1atwx0_zakir-naik-correct-procedure-of-divorce_people
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Abu Loren
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Wa Alaykum Asalaam, What he is doing is wrong. Islamically it is the responsibility of the man to look after the family. It seems to me that he is taking advantage of the situation where you are the bread winner. Five years is a long time for a man for not to work or provide for his family. The Prophet (SalAllahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) said that a instead of begging a man should work even if it is cutting down a tree and selling firewood (paraphrasing). Also it IS allowed for a woman to initiate a divorce. I would advise you to seek advise from an imam. A married woman should NOT suffer in silence. If a man marries more than once then it is also his responsibility to treat the all his wives equally. There are certain rules to be followed in taking a second, third or fourth wife. The least a man should do is consult his first wife. Salaam |
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