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Notsureyet-I think your boyfriend is very confused and the people here would not consider him a Muslim in any way. People who follow the Nation on Islam are more like a cult. He can never justify porn on the internet or cheating on you because premarital sex is absoulutley forbidden, with YOU AS WELL!! Sorry to say, but you would be much better of marrying a nice church going christian than this guy. And by the way Polygamy is allowed, but the there are reasons. Such as to protect widows and to not leave women alone. In times of war more men die and women and children are left behing. Polygamy for variety in sex ect. is wrong and a man who does it for lust will surely awnser to Allah. Love cannot make you blind sister, stand up and keep away from him, he sounds like a sex addict to me.. PEace

I am dating a man, who was a member of the nation of Islam.  Let me interject by saying that I am a christian, and have struggled to understand Islam, through him as best I could.  I read the Quoran in conjunction with the Bible, although I still am a Christian.  In any event, I have never dated outside our relationship.  I work hard every day.  I am a lawyer and a community activist.  But, I do maintain all my values as it relates to taking care of a man... LEt me pause and say I know we are not married, however, I believe that if I want God to send me a husband, I must show him that I am ready to be a wife.  Despite how good I am to him, he has been caught cheating int he relationship.  He spends hours on the internet dealing with women, sending and recieving naked photos, talking to them on the phone....  I have tried to forgive him, but lately he has take to being really mean... telling me that I am the cause of the problems.. that I am around to much and have done too much for him.  He even went so far to say he doesnt need someone who is a nice as me.  I have confronted him religiously and said that I dont know Allah, but how can he believe this is what Allah wants for his life.  He has responded that Allah provides that a man can have up to four wives.. and that a woman can never understand a man.  He said only Allah can help him with his lust.  That last part I believe (whether it be ALLAH or GOD -- I dont personally see a difference).  The part I am confused on.. is this a core belief of muslims?  Will he and I always have this problem, because Islam allows polygomy?  Should I pray and hope Allah/God helps him, or do I just need to leave.. and help myself?