How do I tell my future husband know I was raped? |
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Sarh777
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This sounds graphic and my apologies.. but my hymen is not there, which means I will not bleed anymore the first time it happens with my husband.... what do I do then? Lie about my hymen? |
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abuayisha
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How do you imagine he will find out without you telling him? And once you tell him, know that you will be subjected to a detailed deposition, which frankly speaking, is none of his business. It is a knowledge that does not benefit and only harms. |
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NABA
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Walecum As Salaam, Allah is most merciful n forgiving.it is good u hv repented, pray to Allah constantly and have taqwa in Sha Allah will solve ur problem bcoz Allah says if u fear Allah, Allah will provide help from unimaginable sources (ch 65 v 2-3).
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Sarh777
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Thank you so much for your sympathetic and kind reply! I appreciate it with all my heart. I do understand what you're saying.... and to be honest, I would rather tell him the truth and start a new life, instead of feeling scared. What hurts me is the thought that he might not understand...and hold it against me... even though, going down that road was never my intention. |
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Sarh777
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Assalaumu alaikum! JazakAllah Khair for your kind reply! I understand how my sins or past mistakes should be between me and Allah swt only... but my fear lies on the fact that if I don't tell my future husband beforehand that I am not a virgin, he will find out anyways. And this is what worries me and confuses me about my future actions.... |
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abuayisha
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With all due respect Caringheart, this isn't the proper thread for theological debate.
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Caringheart
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Greetings abuayisha, This is why I do not believe that you follow the same God that I follow. This teaching of yours goes against what Yshwe(known as Jesus) taught. I would ask the question... how well does keeping your secrets serve in freeing you from your sins? Or doesn't keeping your secrets really only serve to keep you in bondage to those sins, having to keep them forever hidden? There is a difference, I agree, between 'boasting of sins', and regretting, confessing, and repenting from sins. But only in Truth, and in telling the truth, are we ever truly free from the bondage laid upon us by our past mistakes and sins. asalaam and blessings, CLynn Edited by Caringheart - 13 March 2014 at 8:58pm |
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Let us seek Truth together
Blessed be God forever "I believe in Jesus as I believe in the sun... not because I see it, but because by it, I see everything else.: - C.S.Lewis |
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abuayisha
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From among the teachings of Allah's Messenger (salallahu alaihe wa-sallam) is to keep sins a secret matter. If someone commits a sinful act which is against the Commandments of Allah, or is against the moral character, or is such an act that may cause harm to one's honor, then he should keep it a secret and seek forgiveness from Allah in the darkness of night. The Messenger of Allah (salallahu alaihe wa-sallam) said: "My entire nation is safe, except al-Mujahirin (those who boast of their sins). Among the Mujaharah is that a man commits an (evil) act, and wakes up in the morning while Allah has kept his (sin) a secret, he says: "O Fulan! Last night I did this and that." He goes to sleep while Allah has kept his (sin) a secret but he wakes up in the morning and uncovers what Allah has kept a secret!" [Saheeh al-Bukharee]
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