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    Posted: 11 September 2013 at 1:31pm
Hello everyone! Thank you for all who were encouraging before the wedding, it was wonderful! And to janmarie, I'll tell you about it... dress as we said in earlier posts... First of all, more people in our family came than I expected. All the elder women came, and my sister, which I was very touched by. We all thought they would not be interested in the religious ceremony and only come to the reception (next year), but they were happy to be there (and curious, too).
As for covering our heads, I offered to but one woman who was helping run things said, no, don't worry about it! and led me to my seat where I saw my family all with THEIR heads covered! I was embarrassed at first but after a few minutes a few other women entered without their heads covered; they were some non-muslim friends, and some of my family took them off because it was hot and they saw quite a few others with no head scarf. No one seemed to care either way after all!
I was told to sit to one side of the bride, up front. I did not have to do or say anything... my son was up front with the men, and did the men's part with the bride's father and a small group of men. The words spoken by the imam were wonderful, I was moved to tears during the ceremony. It didn't last long, and then the bride & her mother went up front as well, followed by some other women of the bride's family, and eventually it all sort of broke down into picture-taking and congratulating me & her mother until we all made our way into the community room of the mosque. There was a LONG line of tables covered with desserts... anything you can name! The baklava was the best and they made sure to send me home with enough to last for weeks! While everyone snacked, I met some of her family and mingled, and worked my way to the imam to thank him.
I'd like to add, my son's wife doesn't normally cover her head in every day life, so it was the first time I saw her dressed like that and she was BEAUTIFUL!!! She looked like a goddess, and I am so happy to have pictures to remember it by; it was truly a wonderful day and a great new experience for those of us who are not Muslim.

Thank you again to those on this board who were supportive!
Janmarie- do you have any specific questions? I'll try to check back here frequently over the next few days; ask anything, and then tell us how it went.

Peace and health and happiness to all!
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Good morning,

I read your post posted back in April of 2013.

My current situation is exactly like yours! My son (recently became Muslim) is marrying a Muslim girl this Friday.

I have the same questions you had disclosed in your post. I wonder if you are able to enlighten me with any advice or information as I assume you have now gone through this same experience.

Kind regards,
Jan
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Thank you all SO much for your support and advice, especially semar for describing the ceremony. I feel a lot better and now I'm getting more excited about the wedding; it's in only a few weeks! You are all so nice and warm and encouraging; if I need other advice I will definitely feel comfortable coming back here!
Peace and love to you all!
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote nothing Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 22 April 2013 at 6:16pm
Don't waste the opportunity that the food is free in this occasion, so bring all your family you can march with big handbags.LOL

Alright just be happy in the wedding, that is the rule, and no grumpy looking.Big%20smile

Congrats for this happy occasion.



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congrats..
 i also do agree  with both of them ,,and it's true that u really sound like  such a very KIND and wise woman ,who has not only given a permission  her son to marry a muslim girl but also is there for her son 's happiness.. hat's off to you ..


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Yeah, I agree with Semar; just enjoy! You sound like such a wonderful person so just be yourself.  Congratulations and all the best.
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As-Salaamo 'Alaaykum,
Sister!! Don't worry about anything. You don't need to cover your head but if you are not feeling comfort then go for scarf(then you become satisfied)and wear that what you want. You need little confidence about this ceremony. Feel happy because it's you son's wedding.
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