Living with Inlaws,am i asking too much?

as'salam alaykum wara7matu Allah wa barakatuh

My dear sister Rashidr... It is very true that to live with our husbands away from the fathers in law offers to us freedom and privacy, but also it is true that our duty as wives is to support our husbands when they more need us. Your husband needs to save money for his studies, he has not prevented you from studying till now, why cannot you give now to him this benefit?...

As you have told us, he is a good man, and I am sure Allahu a3laam he doesn't want anything bad to you, as I am sure he should be stressed realizing that you are not showing the best of the happiness with this situation.

My best advice dear sister is to try and find the best solution for to get the best of the living with your fathers in law, anyway insha'allah it will be a certain time, this way you will make your husband happy and you will be happy as well.

My sis you are still young and maybe you can learn many things from your mother in law, try to find the best of this, sometimes bad things just happen, no reason, no purpose, Allah [swt] is who knows better, these things just occur and we are left to pick up the pieces the best we can. Al7amdulelah at least you are having a place where to live at, just think about those whom cannot find a good place where to remain.

But the most important my sister... Love is complicated full of sacrifice and compromise, but you know? this is the best part... the best women for Allah [swt] are those whom obey their husbands and make them happy.... I am sure your husband will be so happy if you try to help him in this issue, and later he will be grateful and he will show you gratitude for such sacrifice of yours.. as i said.. this is the best part bcz you will get rewards for all this insha'allah... just think about it!!

as'salam alaykum wara7matu Allah wa barakatuh...

Sister amah, I am sorry to hear that, i respect your point of view bcz you have lived into a hard situation, but this doesn't mean that all inlaws are like that, and the objetive here is to help our sister trying to find the best solution.

About your statement.. "women are expected to obey and even give up their rights, but nobody tells men to give their wives their rights and keep her happy. Women always get a raw deal"..........we as women must not lose our rights, but we ourselves are who must preserve them. 

Why instead of sitting down waiting for someone who tells to the men how to preserve our rights, don't we make anything by our own?
 
The spouses have mutual rights, sometimes our mistake is to wait  that the man behave in a correct way, but as wives we are who encourage them to be the best husbands... The Believers - men and women - are allies and protectors, one to another.� [ 9:71] we can find the best husband and the best man respecting our rights if we do the same to them... there is an ayah saying... Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure, and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity [24:26]

Each time you please your husband or fulfill his rights you draw closer to his heart. Most husbands view their wives who handle their needs as a sign from the signs of love. So do not be heedless of your obligations regarding him and be mindful when he requests them from you.