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    Posted: 05 March 2013 at 11:25pm
Salaam.

Please contact me if you can provide advice about an arranged marriage that has been delayed by interfering jealous ones. What would Mohammad (Peace be upon him) do?

I am considering leaving her to her own designs, and would like to know what people think I should do.

I am not going to wait, I am going to divorce her if she is unwilling to accompany me.

I apologize for being dramatically open but I needed somebody to talk to.

Salaam. Allahu Akbar



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First, allow yourself time to make an unemotional and rational decision devoid of of anger - calm down.

Narrated �Abdur Rahman bin Abi Bakra: Abu Bakr wrote to his son who was in Sijistan: Do not judge between two persons when you are angry, for I heard the Prophet, sallallahu �alayhi wasallam, saying: �A judge should not judge between two persons while he is in an angry mood.� [Al-Bukhari; Vol. 9, No. 272]

A man said to the Messenger of Allah, (sallallahu �alayhi wasallam � peace be upon him): �Advise me! �The Prophet said, �Do not become angry and furious.� The man asked (the same) again and again, and the Prophet said in each case, �Do not become angry and furious.� [Al-Bukhari; Vol. 8 No. 137]

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I apologize for being dramatic. My heart is broken.

She says she will mend it. We shall see.   

Bon Aventure!

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Thank you for sharing the teaching. It always makes me feel better to hear the truly wise words of the Prophet Mohammad, peace be upon him. Salaam
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I am thankful that she is a strong tower of chastity and not an open gate. For this, I love her.
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