in need for some enlightenment

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   salaams 

i have not always been a good muslim throughout my teen years but i am now trying to change that seeing as i am getting older and time to settle down. 

an old acquittance was talking to me recently about pretending to be husband and wife with others (males) and that in the sight of Allah that is haraam and it can be veiwed as you are really married. 

is this true and how do you overcome this predicament as throughout the years my and a male friend used to often joke that you are my husband/wife and it is your job to such and such. for eg i used to say to him you should pay for lunch coz your the hubby and its your job to provide and he would say that you should clear the table because you are the woman and you have to clean etc 

i have repented for my old sins but am not sure what to do and i am quite stuck. are there any hadeeth or ayahs regarding this?

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sidraalii Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Joined: 18 February 2013 Status: Offline Points: 1	Post Options Post Reply Quote sidraalii Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: in need for some enlightenment Posted: 18 February 2013 at 7:26am
	salaams i have not always been a good muslim throughout my teen years but i am now trying to change that seeing as i am getting older and time to settle down. an old acquittance was talking to me recently about pretending to be husband and wife with others (males) and that in the sight of Allah that is haraam and it can be veiwed as you are really married. is this true and how do you overcome this predicament as throughout the years my and a male friend used to often joke that you are my husband/wife and it is your job to such and such. for eg i used to say to him you should pay for lunch coz your the hubby and its your job to provide and he would say that you should clear the table because you are the woman and you have to clean etc i have repented for my old sins but am not sure what to do and i am quite stuck. are there any hadeeth or ayahs regarding this?

Muhammadjaved Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Male Joined: 01 February 2013 Location: Pakistan Status: Offline Points: 16	Post Options Post Reply Quote Muhammadjaved Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 11 April 2013 at 12:22am
	If you seriously repent your past mistakes will certainly be pardoned. But now you should not meet males unless they are your blood relations or the one to whom you are married. It is disgusting even to hear someone doing that. I am sure you will give up the habit now. Javed Iqbal Kaleem

nothing Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 09 November 2008 Location: Andorra Status: Offline Points: 416	Post Options Post Reply Quote nothing Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 12 April 2013 at 2:04am
	Marriage is bond between a male and a female who are willing to help each other in life in sadness and in happiness together. Paper work is not needed. Salaam. And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily in that are Signs for those who reflect. (30:21)

Muhammadjaved Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Male Joined: 01 February 2013 Location: Pakistan Status: Offline Points: 16	Post Options Post Reply Quote Muhammadjaved Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 25 April 2013 at 10:32pm
	Blessed prophet Muhammad SAW has said: " Nikah is my tradition and whoever does not follow it is not one of my people ". Now think if living without nikah, (witnesses & paper work) is the way of a Muslimah/Muslim? Muhammad Javed Kaleem