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Alisha07
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Posted: 30 September 2012 at 5:15am |
Assalamualaikum Sisters, I am a revert sister.I am following Islam since last 3 Years. He keeps threating me that he would die if I leave him.I have broken all my marriages and believed him still waiting that something good will happen. Please suggest me what i should do? I am not in a condition to marry somebody else. Other killing myslef i have no other option.
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hakeema
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As-Salaam Alaikum,
After 15 years you can't realize that he is not going to marry you. He is not allowing me to lead my life. He has made me to break all my marriages. How is he not allowing you to lead your life when you have the option to say NO to him and marry somebody else? Why you can't tell him NO? What is wrong with the term NO? He keeps threating me that he would die if I leave him. Well if he gone die after he say no let him die than. He is controlling you with that. Why you are scared of him not putting more fear in Allah? Wow, he done a mind trick on you but you ain't the only one. I've been there myself. I will keep you in my prayers. Hakeema Edited by hakeema - 01 October 2012 at 3:39pm |
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lady
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Assalaamoaalikum Alisha07.
Sorry to hear about your pain. You must first stop committing zena.
You will never have respect and happiness for yourself as long as you continue to do zena. Also too, a muslim guy will never respect you or himself as long as you are allowing him to have illegal intimacy with you.
He told you what kind of muslim husband he was going to be when he asked you to break leave your fiance.
Sister he is lying to you when he says that he will die if you leave him. He is not thinking about bringing peace and kindness into your life. Leave him, and count your blessings. In time, you will feel better. Please dont feel like you will not have a life without having a husband.
I agree with Hakeema, you fear him more than Allah.
Sister the sooner you are too honest about what he did to you and WHAT you allow him to do to you, then the quicker it is for you to be on the role to heal.
Thank Allah that he is not treating you well, because you can not continue to leave this life of having illegal relationship. You deserve freedom and happiness. You are oppressing yourself and allowing him to oppress you.
Sister repent to Allah and promise that you will live a better life, etc.
take care
lady
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Alisha07
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Walaikum salaam sister, I have
realized my mistakes sisters and i wanted to come out of it.He keeps threating me.He
says he will not allow me to get married. I have compromised lot of things in
my life to lead a life with him.. I am still wondering why he did this to me. I
have decided to take up things legally not to lead a life to teach him a lesson.
He should never ever do this to anybody. He acts in front of others that he is
such a wonderful human being.
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farhan ahmed
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Assalaamoaalikum Alisha07.
with your question i am feeling very sad.In islam love marrage is not allowed and seconded thing that he is telling lie to you that if you will marrage he will die and third thing is you can see that he have marryed and he want to wast you life and last thing that you should not tell no to your parent because they will find best couple for you but u told no because of you lover but say sorry to your parent and ask them find good man for your marrage |
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hakeema
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Pleaseeee pray to Allah for protection sister. Allah will definitely protect you. You wouldn't even have to lift a finger. Trust me sister. I experienced this myself. Stop analyzing the why and the why not's, just heal from this and move forward.
Question: How can he not allow you to get married? I want you to sit down and answer that question to yourself. He goes to the toilet, eats and sleep like everyone else. HE IS HUMAN BEING. He is not Allah.
Hakeema
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