How to deal with difficult parent?

Salemaleikum,

what is the islamic way for a daughter to behave if the mother is constantly saying negative things when spoken to.
the daughter has tried to help out in the house and be respectful but the pressure from the mother has grown so much that the daughter is becoming depressive and unhappy as there seems to be no way to please the mother. the mother also calls the daughter names or yells at her until she is crying. the mother has also attacked the daughter physically.
the mother has now asked the daughter to not come to her house anymore. (they do not live together anymore) the mother has also denied the child any financial support although she has a good financial situation and the daughter was still a student.

the mother says she is entitled to this behaviour because the child is her property. is that true?

what is the correct way of handling this situation? of course it is essential for the children to please the parents. what if the parents behaviour is not islamic at all? how can this be handled?
has the mother the right to make her hate so obvious because the daughter is according to her "not religious and well behaved" enough.. is this a reason to not speak to the parents or keep a certain distance?

thank you.

Edited by bilal2012 - 19 June 2012 at 12:31pm