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AllforAllah
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Posted: 09 June 2012 at 10:27pm |
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Salamu alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh
My husband and I got married last year in October. I am currently about 5 months pregnant. We have been having sexual problems since we got married but it seems to be getting worse. I want sex more than him, and I seem to not get it as much as I want. I try to look good for him, do my hair and makeup and dress up but none of that seems to arouse him. He keeps telling me okay we will do it later, but we end up not doing it and I go to sleep frustrated. Another problem we are having is, when we do actually get intimate, he leaves me unsatisfied like it doesn't matter to him at all. Again, I go to sleep unhappy. I am attractive. I know i gained a few pounds since i got pregnant but mind you I am pregnant because he really wanted a baby. I don't know what to do. I keep praying to Allah that this will improve. There's no telling him how i feel because we always end up fighting and he leaves our bed. I am extremely sad and depressed because of this. Please pray for me. Any good serious answers are appreciated. Thank you. May Allah reward you. |
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HalaHala2012
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Pray and be patient is the advice I've always gotten.
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Chrysalis
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Talk to him about it... read up about these issues on the internet and tips on how to get him interested.
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seeja
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I do agree with "Chrysalis" opinion� open talk to be followed in order to resolve these type of sensitive issues. |
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Pati
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Hi dear, Well, first of all, welcome to the "hormon war" on pregnant women. That's why you feel so much "needs", and it will keep this way until the end of the pregnancy period... so you will have to learn on how to control it as much as you can. Regarding him, it's not that he is not wanting you, all men are afraid from pregnant women, because they think that during the intercourse, the baby may be hurt or I don't know what they have in their minds, so maybe going to the doctor together and asking him about the possibility to keep your sexual life alive may help. For the last thing, if you don't get satisfied, I would just tell him that you don't get fully satisfaction, and that you may need to try different things to be pleased both of us. Just say it not as reproaching him, but just talking and explaining that you need something more. Dear, he is your husband and he should understand you. You are just starting the marriage, and you will be with him for the rest of your lives, so just try to enjoy it in the best way you can. Be opened with him, enjoy your time together, and just trust each other. Don't be afraid from telling him your needs. Good luck Patricia |
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Nausheen
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Men have way too much more testosterone than women ... and islamically it is his duty to keep you gratified. If he does not take care of you, you still have a duty to care for yourself - what is meant here is that look for all means to solve this problem because marriage are made so people are not tempted to commit zina. Men and women are garments of each other - as its said in Quran regarding couples. They are obliged in marriage to satisfy this need because a muslim is not allowed to even look at another human being with such desires. Look after yourself sister - whatever it takes!
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