marriage life

As Salamu Alaikum wa rahmatullah

You have got good responses and great posts brother. All of them hold good suggestions to you.

As you belong to the same nation am from, can understand your tough situation.

Is it important for you to allow her go out for job ?

If it's important for her to work, let her pick up your child, when she returns by evening. If it's not possible{ perhaps by distance of travelling }, choose to live separately. I understand that it's tough for you to live separately { India ki zaban mein ghar se alag honay ka matlab , rishta hi khatm karna hota hai, khwah kuch hi din keliye sahi }, try to live in a residence, closer to your house, so that you visit your parents daily and fulfill their obligations as well {gosht tarkari waghairah bhi laiye :) } . During both of your off-days, try to spend with your parents so that they play with your child.

Parents from both side need to work out with tolerance for better life of their children instead of getting stubborn with their words. For this choose someone from your family { koi mamu ya chacha/ phupa } who can talk to your parents, and their parents as well. Kindly mind if you talk to them directly, it may not work.

And make lots of duas.

Asalaam Alaikum,

I think you should keep in mind your wife's relationships. Some in-laws- especially mother-in-laws are VERY pushy people. They do not respect the daughter-in-laws and treat them well. They order her about, be-little her, make her feel bad as she is not "family." YOU may not see it, or at all feel slighted. But she may very well be. Especially if the ONLY reason for her to be there is so they see their grandchild.

Many husbands often expect the woman to put up with things as YOU want them to be. Instead of your father"blasting" her, YOU need to sit down and ask her why she dos not want to be over there. She, as a Muslim woman does not have to live with your family.

You are responsible for your parents, she is not. She may not want to be there. Many women are like that.



Edited by Hayfa - 29 January 2012 at 8:28am

Thanks for your reply and suggestion.What my inlaws house want is they want to keep my son with them and bought up there only.and what i want is he is my son he should bought by me only for whom i am earning.

Assalamaoalaikum sister Fulll of hope.  Your post was excellent when you said: 
:And take my advice! Always keep ur problems between u n ur wife. Try not to involve parents or anyone else unless u really can't deal with it alone.
I noticed something! When ur partner hurts u and u complain u can forgive him/her later but your family really can't. So keep thier love 4ur wife by always covering her mistakes and solve the issue between you guys."

Edited by lady - 25 January 2012 at 11:22pm